When we end a relationship, we feel the need to quickly find a new love, to avoid the loneliness that lurks around us.
Maybe it’s not even a relationship. We just need someone on our side to share our lives and our privacy; someone to help us cope with the pain we feel.
- It is not possible to explain why.
- After separation.
- Many people are looking for a new partner.
- Maybe they’ll feel lonely.
- Maybe they’ll feel empty?You’ve probably been there too.
Today we present 05 reasons not to rush to find a new partner
“This foolish fear of being old and without a partner makes us choose with our heads what is in our hearts. “
? Ricardo Arjona?
This proverb is true, but we often ignore it because of various circumstances and situations that affect our lives.
It is understandable that you are looking for a new love, because desire invades, separation causes a lot of suffering, and we are in a hurry to want to overcome this situation.
But be careful not to be selfish?
What do we mean by that, don’t you use this new person to forget the old one?
No one deserves to be used and you’re not ready to start a new relationship.
“Take a break, ” be alone with your pain. Don’t lean on anyone and enjoy their loneliness, it’s a great opportunity to get to know each other better and appreciate what really matters.
The fear of loneliness after the end of a relationship is something that happens because our lives have changed radically from one moment to the next.
We visualize a future with our partner, a life together, but everything has changed and can happen to anyone.
Why not see this on the plus side? Now that you’re alone, you can be yourself again.
When we are married, we generally think of the common good; we take into account the wishes of others.
Enjoy this loneliness, it’s not bad to be alone. In addition, you must learn to be alone; your happiness doesn’t depend on someone else.
What have we done wrong?We need to find the answers to these questions.
Every relationship brings some learning. It is a great opportunity to grow as a person, live new experiences and leave them strengthened.
Think about what went wrong, the mistakes you both made in this relationship, this will help you realize what you really want and how to act with the next couple.
But don’t think you’ll be loved again. You just closed a chapter, but you can open a new one as soon as you feel ready.
If immediately after the end of one relationship we start another, we will probably carry several negative emotional burdens on our shoulders.
At first they won’t cause any problems, but over time they can end your relationship/marriage, your partner will be suffocated at so much negativity that it has been stored in you, it is necessary to heal the wounds of the previous one. relationship to start over.
What are you looking for? You’re not ready for a new relationship; will injure himself and the other person.
Take care of as long as it takes to get rid of these emotional burdens and feel free to “start from scratch. “
A relationship changes our lives, is it about us?And not “me, ” that’s why you feel lost when it’s all over.
Thinking for a while as a couple and not as a person can make you forget about yourself, and then you need to quickly find another partner.
You must find yourself. It’s scary, but it’s necessary. It’s an opportunity to grow and prepare for a new stage in life.
Think about it and realize how healthy it can be to spend time alone with yourself. It can be a learning experience because we don’t always have someone on our side.
Take advantage of this separation to learn and get to know each other better.
Then you’ll become the person you’ve always wanted to be
Original Spanish text by Raquel Lemos RodrÃguez.