There are attitudes that deplete our energy, that leave us physically and mentally exhausted, in some cases we end up doing things, sometimes without realizing it, that rob us of energy, divert it to negative concerns and mental states that make us feel bad.
It should be noted that all human beings are energy beings, which is the engine that allows us to work with motivation and make the most of every opportunity that comes in our lives.
- Energy is what drives us to do what we love and carry out these actions.
- “Energy is critical to meeting our most basic needs.
- ” says the World Health Organization (WHO).
Do you feel powerless, mentally exhausted, unmotivated and constantly worried? Maybe you’re taking measures that drain your energy. Below are some of the ones we consider most relevant.
Living stuck in the past means continually reliving what has already happened, what has already happened, is the desire for a time that we would like to recover, unfortunately for many the past cannot be changed, you cannot change what has already happened. Happened.
On the other hand, the present and the future are in our hands. Living glued to what cannot be changed rather than living in the present, here and now steals our energy and leaves us mentally exhausted.
So wouldn’t it be healthier to expend energy on what can be changed, in what is in our hands in the present, rather than spending all that energy on remembering past situations?
“If the present tries to judge the past, it will lose the future. “Winston Churchill.
In reference to the previous section, Patti Brietman, in his book How to Say?No, without feeling guilty, he says the feeling of guilt robs us of energy.
So accept what happened and let go of the guilt you carry on your shoulders, this is not what allows you to see the future, nor live today.
Why do we have trouble saying “No”? A lot of people are used to giving in, doing things to please, people who are often afraid to say no, because they don’t want to annoy others or seem selfish.
In that sense, in saying, yes? It makes us constantly have time for everyone, but not for ourselves, in this way one ends up forgetting to please others.
Don’t say no, it leaves us exhausted, it drains our energy because it forces us to be too busy doing things for others, leaving our needs and desires in the background.
“Shouldn’t we say, isn’t it, for a thousand things to make sure we don’t make mistakes or try to get too involved?-Steve Jobs-
We all know someone who prefers to use a good amount of resources to solve a problem before asking for help, I’m sure we know someone who prefers to fail than allow others to join the project to make it work.
Intelligently regulating our resources means knowing how to delegate, ask for or ask for help and advice in situations where relying on others can turn a large mountain into a small mountain.
This is the case, especially in the world we live in. We set aside the subsistence economy: everyone specializes in providing a service, leaving the rest to others.
Many of our concerns relate to events we anticipate, so we can’t help but ask ourselves the following question: Does it make sense to be anxious about what hasn’t happened yet?
People who are used to worrying devote much of their strength to these thoughts, as a result, anxiety robs you of much of your energy, spending a lot of time thinking about what will happen when it hasn’t happened yet.
“There are two types of problems: those for which you can do something and those for which you cannot. Can’t you waste your time on Mondays?-Duke Ellington-
Psychologist Joan Garriga says that “complaint is an action that diminishes people’s vitality. “Therefore, constantly complaining about what happens in our lives is one of the attitudes that depletes our energies.
The continuous spiral of grievances doesn’t lead us anywhere, on the contrary, it paralyzes us.
“The complaint, used on certain occasions, is a means of discharge or an exhaust valve in relation to what is happening, freeing us in a certain way. But when we focus on her, do we exhaust much of our energy in complaining?
Sometimes we carry out plans or obligations because we are lazy, so our agenda is full of to-do tasks.
Leaving tasks we don’t like to do for the future is like loading a cloud, preparing a storm of unpredictable negative consequences.
“Anything you can dream of, whatever you can do, start doing it. Boldness involves genius, power and magic, starting now!?. -Goethe-“
If you think about the downside of things, if you think something bad is going to happen, if you constantly think something’s going to go wrong, it’s probably going to happen because you keep a negative attitude.
This is called self-fulfilling prophecy. Sociologist Robert K. Merton says: “Self-fulfilling prophecy is initially a false definition of the situation that arouses new behavior, which makes the original false conception of the situation a reality. “”.
So, according to the author’s thinking, if he thinks something’s going to go wrong, that’s probably the case.
Trying to control everything around us is exhausting and part of the attitudes that drain our energies, it requires a futile effort that makes us a factory of frustration and anguish because we never achieve the level of control we want.
In this sense, thinking at all times about placing each live board token in a certain place is complicated when you are not the only person who plays this game Can we control everything around us?
“If we think we can control the reins of things that are inherently out of our control, or if we try to appropriate the affairs of others, our efforts will be destroyed and we will feel frustrated, anxious, and too critical. “Epicleto-
Sit on the couch, take a relaxing bath on the way home, watch a movie with a friend, read a book, or maybe call the friend you’ve been talking to for so long.
There are countless ways to stop and disconnect, and here we emphasize the importance of doing so. As Maslow points out in his pyramid on the hierarchy of human needs, rest is a fundamental element of balance.
In conclusion, remember that life that goes down the path of concern ends up being a path of little value and a lot of suffering, so laugh, cry, love, feel.
Wasting much of our time worrying, thinking about what might have been or complaining, are attitudes that lead us to forget the present, here and now, and therefore prevent us from enjoying every feeling.
? You like life because if you love life, don’t waste your time, because time is the good that constitutes life -Benjamin Franklin-