Over time, monotony tends to be based on the couple’s life and, little by little, boredom can gain ground; However, although it is not an easy task, it is possible to live a happy life together. The secret is in the will of the couple, to stay together and want to be really happy, establishing the relationship between the two as an undisputed priority.
That said, it sounds simple, doesn’t it? But how do we do it, how do we make the relationship our priority for work, children, grandparents, home, bills and well-being with friends and family, among others?
- Psychiatrist and consultant Mark Goulston.
- Author of the book “How to Get and Preserve the Love You Deserve?”.
- Argues that secrecy is in identifying and cultivating habits that promote happiness in the couple.
- According to Goulston.
- “a habit is behavior that you automatically repeat until you have to make little effort to maintain it.
- “As a result.
- All couples can adopt them.
- Simply by dedicating some time and interest to them.
- Soon it will be a natural thing.
- Which will facilitate many other things.
According to Mark Goulston, the habits that characterize happy couples are:
Lie down at the same time. This, quite common at the beginning of married life, tends to disappear over time, according to Goulston, it is necessary to maintain this custom to keep the flame of desire burning.
2. Cultivate common interests. After the initial passion, many couples discover that they have little in common. So you need to find something you can do together, something to get involved in. That doesn’t mean they have to do everything together; You just have to find something that interests both of you, while having other interests of your own.
3. Walk hand in hand. It’s a simple and common gesture at the beginning of a relationship, but that, over time, is lost You’ve noticed how cute it is to see an elderly couple walking hand in hand?
4. Trust and forgive. Discussing together is normal, but you have to know how to manage the conflicts that are going to arise, if there is mutual trust and forgiveness without rancour, it is much easier to manage these conflicts and become a couple.
5. Focus on the positives. Focusing on the positive qualities of the other person, rather than focusing on their flaws, is the secret to staying in love. No one is perfect, but, as Goulson says, “it all depends on what you want to look for. “
6. Hug. According to Goulston, “Does our skin have a memory of ‘good caresses’?(Love),? Bad caresses? (Abuse) and?No caresses? (Recklessness). Couples who greet each other with a hug keep their skin bathed in “good caresses”. You don’t need a reason to give a hug.
7. Say I love you? And have a nice day? Every morning. These words are a stimulant to start the day right and help to remove any harshness that has manifested itself.
8. Say “good night. ” With this simple wish, the couple reaffirms their relationship every night, despite the difficulties and emotional ups and downs of the day. According to Goulston, “you tell your partner that you always want to be in the relationship, and that what you both have is greater than any disturbing incident. “
9. Call or send a message during the day. This shows one concern for the other. It’s a routine call to see if everything’s okay, to stay connected.
10. Se’m proud to be a couple. It’s as simple as kissing, touching, kissing in public, being complicit and staying together.