Have you ever stopped to wonder if you’re really in love?Or won’t it be in a few days or a few months?She thought she was in love, but did she find out she was right?love someone else and have a relationship?
If you answered at least one of these questions in the affirmative, you are probably part of the group of people who are emotionally dependent.
- This can be applied to both women and men.
- Although women tend to exhibit more of this type of behavior.
- However.
- This does not mean that it is a matter of sex.
- But of sex hormones.
Here are the 12 questions that can make us see if we’re really emotionally dependent:
1. Are you trying to mold the person you think you’re in love with?
2. Have you discovered in previous relationships that you tend to idealize people?
3. Wondering what you want others to be like instead of seeing the way they really are?
Do you focus on how your partner treats you and not what it actually looks like in you?
5. Are you very impressed with the way this person makes you feel special?
Does your partner hold you responsible for your happiness, pain, and safety?
Do you feel anxious or panicking when you’re not with your partner or when he doesn’t care when?
8. Do you have a waiting list that your partner must fill out to make you feel loved and safe?
9. Do you think you can’t live without that person?
10. Do you feel lonely and empty internally, at least when your partner is with you, paying attention and approval that you don’t give yourself?
11. Are you jealous and possessive of your partner?
12. Is it about keeping control and getting your partner to do what you want them to do?
These questions don’t have the same professional validity as a psychological test, but they can certainly help us know a little more about who we are about it.
Emotional dependence is an important aspect that can cause great suffering, in addition, it can be said that its origin is in love born of fear, and that it is not love, it is need.
It is also important to be aware of emotional dependence, because it comes from the inner emptiness we create when we abandon ourselves, when this happens, we hope that then our partner will fill that void and make us feel safe and loved.
All this work we haven’t done and it’s our responsibility?
Once we make our partner responsible for our own happiness, safety and personal worth, we begin to develop the need to control it and thus get them to love us artificially, this particular form coincides exactly with what we want.
The saddest thing about this part of the process is that we don’t realize that what we create is an artificial thing, something that departs from pure and unconditional love.
The pure love that we all have the right to enjoy, enjoy and feel in this life, is a love without circumstances, unconditional, without “but” and without seeking a single personal advantage. One of its pillars is never to ask to be loved and, therefore, never to control or pretend to dominate the other in a relationship.
Love is based and comes from the unconditional execution of?Couple?give and share, never based on receiving. When you love someone, you deeply and deeply appreciate their essential and personal qualities, those that do not disappear over time and that make the person you love unique and irreplaceable.
When you are in love, do not trust the shallowest qualities of appearance, money, and power, but deep in your heart and soul.
The problem for many people lies in the constant, if not exaggerated, search for love and the need to have a relationship, this approach is harmful to oneself, because it will give way to a closed heart with control behaviors, which precisely drive love away.
We can open our hearts by focusing on love and focusing on learning, at all times, to love ourselves and, therefore, our partner.
Here are some ideas
? Being affectionate with yourself and your surroundings will allow you to live love in a much more respectable way for you and the people you love.
? If we do not love each other, our essence cannot see or love the essence of others.
? Having low self-esteem can make us emotionally dependent on our desire to gain love.
? They’ll be less fragile if they love each other. In addition, this love will allow you to better interpret the needs and complaints of your partner.
Perhaps everything will come down to giving us the attention and approval that human beings need to feel full and grow in our lives, one of the main keys to falling in love and staying in love is learning to love oneself.