We are so obsessed with well-being as adults that we forget the importance of cultivating self-esteem in our children.
It is essential that our children become balanced adults, because it will be best that we can pass on them, however, if we stop to think about it, it will not be difficult to realize that our defects are very visible to them.
- In this way.
- Children understand our fears and insecurities and adopt them easily.
- In this context.
- The thing is that we have to do everything we can to make this happen to a lesser extent.
- But how do we do it?.
First of all, because we are the best example to follow, that is why we recommend personal care; secondly, with the way we act and treat and the values we pass on to them.
We don’t want children to be perfect, but they must cultivate pride; we want children to have confidence in themselves and their own potential. Here we share 12 ways to boost the self-esteem of children who won’t fail.
“Childhood has its own ways of seeing, thinking and feeling, there is nothing more absurd than trying to replace them with our own.
? Jean-Jacques Rousseau?
We need to think about what children ask us and tell us, moreover, if we walk with them, we should not go and look at our mobile phones, because the child will realize the times we do not pay attention to them.
No screaming and patience. The child is a sponge that will absorb good and evil. Let them know that they are learning together, that learning is mutual.
Let them make small decisions about their daily relationships or habits. For example, you can cook and prepare lunch, but can they help dry and collect dishes, set the table, choose the clothes they want to wear?
With brothers or friends. Don’t compare a child to anyone, not even adults. No one is better or worse than anyone; we’re all different.
This doesn’t help build healthy self-esteem. When a child does something wrong, there are many ways to tell him: isn’t it fair to hit his brothers, that toys shouldn’t break, or that they stop working?
The child doesn’t understand what happens when you talk to him about something like that, in this case you have to express how well he did the homework, how much he picked up the toys, how wonderful it is to see her draw and paint. In words, you should praise the behavior, not the child, and thus strengthen the child’s self-esteem.
In other words, if you don’t keep your toys, you won’t go to the park; the child will want to negotiate this, but it’s not worth taking half-measures. If you place a reasonable condition, you must apply it; otherwise, it won’t be taken seriously. Be firm.
Don’t focus on excellence or approval. It is important that the child has been constant and worked hard, refresh it.
In other words, tell them what they did well and talk about what they liked; Let the child know what he likes. Have you kept your strollers and stuffed animals?
It is important that you talk to others about your accomplishments and efforts in front of the child so that they feel useful and important.
If the child cries, he’s probably hurt himself, give him that importance. Avoid saying, “It was nothing! If something makes her feel bad, it’s important that we can give her the right relevance. “
Don’t keep them and look at them all the time, as this will raise your children in a bubble, children are not made of glass and need a dynamic that allows them to develop constantly.
Try to reserve an individual moment for everyone, because the fact that you are important and protagonist for a few minutes, or a few hours, is very important for the little ones, this is the key to showing them how much you care, and these moments can generate innovative exchanges between you over time, thus reinforcing the self-esteem of children.
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