There is a lot of talk about the benefits of making friends and the positive effects of friendship on people. And that’s true. But sometimes some misconceptions or myths can make us expect from friendship or friends more than we can really find, or we may think that the idea of friendship is universal and that’s because we get along with them. someone, we can already establish a relationship, strong and lasting friendship.
Many myths evolve in the environment and are fueled by beautiful words, not always based and based on concrete and/or partial experiences, which temper their value and increase expectations with what can be achieved with friendship.
- These friendship myths can also cause anxiety or distress in people who can’t find friends who meet these expectations.
Nobody gives you happiness. It is an inner state, which is within each one, that allows us to find joy in any relationship, including friendship, among many others, in any case, if this were true, it would not be fair, for a person who is friendly. with the other you can’t blame yourself for your misfortune or sadness. Also, all the moments we spend with our friends are not joyful.
Friends help you be happier, but they’re not solely responsible for your happiness, on the other hand, just because we don’t have friends doesn’t mean we can’t be happy the same way.
The quality of friendship has nothing to do with quantity, on the other hand, managing the relationship with a large number of friends weakens the individual relationship with each of them, besides this can lead to great confusion, making no distinction between friends and friends. known (which in some circles can be identified as “colleagues” and not as “friends”).
On the other hand, friends don’t get together and they’re not an excuse to be the most popular in the neighborhood or elsewhere.
It would be wonderful, but the reality is that friends can come and go in our lives, a friendship lost by distance or time can be found, but when you stop feeding it, it takes time for it to be the same because people also change. .
Friendships can also end for many reasons and we cannot expect a lost or abandoned friendship to resurface on its own. We have to give him time.
Sounds very childish. Really best friends are hard to find, the people who own them are very fortunate, but it is not an essential condition to enjoy friendship and be happy, it is possible to have several good friends that satisfy us emotionally, rather than a best friend. .
This is one of the many myths about gender differences, the fact that men handle their relationships and friends, in general, differently does not mean that they do not value them.
Friendships need time to develop. People need time to get to know each other, and that happens little by little over the years. There are things that are private and others that need to be shared.
Everyone has the right to keep what they deem appropriate without feeling guilty, if a friend shares much of your life with you doesn’t mean you have to do the same, this won’t detract from the friendship between the two.
Don’t let us fool you. If you’ve had an intimate relationship with someone, it’s not easy to “remain friends. “Chances are the new relationship won’t succeed. Friendship can be difficult when there’s a romantic past, or even when you’re interested in the person. However, this may be possible, even if you have to take a break and not make a mistake (it’s not always easy or possible).
In any case, being a man doesn’t mean you have an intimate interest in all women and vice versa, or that we can’t maintain that kind of friendship.
People are not perfect and, however kind, there may be other reasons why people act in a certain way, with the risk of disappointing everyone.
People often act on instinct, without thinking too much about the consequences; Besides, not everyone has the same concept of friendship, so they won’t understand disappointment in the same way.
In any case, if a good friend can sometimes disappoint, it’s your intention that counts. Toxic friends, you want to hurt, not good friends.
Many people mistakenly believe that friendships are born naturally in the day-to-day, this can happen in childhood, with classmates or during extracurricular activities, proof that this is not the amount of friends in the childhood stage that we have.
In any case, for adults it is necessary to make an effort to meet new people and create a connection, in addition, to find new friends, maintaining the relationship we have with our old friends, is a way to grow continuously as a person. .
Loneliness occurs in many different situations and can also happen to people who have many friends, it’s not the number of people around you who will help you avoid loneliness, but the fact that some of them know that you’re alone and that you’re willing to help you overcome this.
A person can help you feel less alone. Again, quality is worth more than quantity in terms of friendship.
If friendship is not maintained, it will gradually break or weaken. You have to work on it, even once in a while. It doesn’t mean going out to have fun and doing things together. Calling, worrying about each other, remembering small details, such as your birthday (or your children), makes friendship grow.
Some people boast about having the same friends since childhood, but that doesn’t necessarily mean they’re good friends, or that they’re more valuable as friends to others and as good people in general. It also doesn’t mean friendship is better, because it’s been going on for many years.
Many people who find it difficult to make friends feel anxious about this myth, which calls into question their ability to socialize and communicate. It’s not true.
Many people go through times when they have fewer friends or even those who don’t, this can be due to a change, a moment of stress or depression, or the fact that you’ve suffered a toxic relationship that has made you lose confidence. others, etc. This is not to say that they will not be able to enter into friendly relationships later on, that they feel bad or are bad people.
The word “friends” no longer makes sense on Facebook. What you have on Facebook are contacts and often only serve to tell the world how popular you are.
Even finding old friends and learning about the past doesn’t mean reconnecting with them. Also, if you use Facebook, surely you have had more than one disappointment. Many have stopped using the network for this reason.