Violence in the language is one of the most harmful forms of aggression; On the one hand, words have the power to leave marks that impact even several years after what happened; on the other hand, linguistic violence is usually hidden and / or socially legitimized. It is not as visible as physical violence, so it is more difficult to intervene in this regard.
Words also leave no physical marks, so there is often some halo of impunity for them, many say they did not say, that they were misunderstood or that it was not to take seriously what they said when it came to anger. that violent words are blows, sometimes very strong, in the soul, so they are not eligible.
“I suspect incommunicability; Is it the source of all violence? – Jean Paul Sartre–
Violent language hurts people and damages relationships, once certain abrupt words or phrases have been pronounced, a relationship will no longer be the same, this involves overcoming the barrier of respect and consideration that the other deserves, and therefore affects and leaves scars. talk about the three manifestations of violence through language.
While it is a communication in which violence is evident, the truth is that it is very present in everyday language. There are those who choose to say that the other is a pig, a fly or a donkey. The pig is intended for those who are not attractive or have a high body mass index. Stealing is expressing that someone is a nuisance. Donkey for those who are wrong or execute a great force without reflecting.
The use of such words is so common that they have been incorporated into the current language, are socially accepted and, in fact, cannot be said to have a very clear cut, unless they are repeated frequently or are not accompanied. by other signs of contempt.
People animalize too. They don’t say they work hard, but “they work like a dog or a camel. “They don’t say they feel exploited by others, but are they?Others, the most toxic of these animals, among others, is to deprive the person of his human condition. Frequently used, they validate a kind of “law of the jungle” in which respect no longer matters.
It is common in people who are very anxious or overwhelmed by anger, choose to express all their negative feelings or emotions in gigantic terms, they do not say that they felt uncomfortable that the other person has ruined the table, but they shout that they are outraged and that this extreme contempt has stirred their stomachs.
They do not feel anger, they feel anger or fury, they do not feel sadness, but they feel wounded in the soul or as stabbed in the heart, they always choose the most extraordinary way to manifest pain, anger or anguish His purpose is not to express themselves, but to rape the other with these expressions.
The problem is that these hyperboles end up having the opposite effect, rather than impressing others, it reduces their sensitivity, this can even have an effect at first, but if they become a routine formula, they end up losing their apparent effectiveness. So sooner or later, others will end up not listening to these expressions.
Extreme repetition of complaints or complaints is also a form of expression that involves violence in language, insisting on the same formulas to blame is an attempt to mark others with words, stigmatize them or limit them to a meaning.
Repetitive discourse is a form of unilateral communication, but beyond that, it is an attempt to impose meaning. The worst thing is that it is an attempt that is carried out in the most primary way?Inoculating words in each other’s consciousness? And that is precisely why it cancels the interlocutor, reduces you to the object of a single message, a mark.
One of the three formulas animalization, hyperbole and litany?They’re ways to become addicted to communication. In them, meanings are distorted or lost, they are not expressions intended to promote understanding, but devices of language whose primary function is to attack.
Ask yourself if you usually use any of these three ways to communicate and, if yes, we suggest you place a sign at the beginning of these paths that says?For you and those around you.
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