Humans are a very vulnerable species, both physically and mentally. We are vulnerable to the environment, to the way we process our experiences in childhood and adolescence, and to the educational pattern around us. All of this forms our belief system that will manage our thinking, emotions and behaviors.
According to Rokeach (1960), “the belief system represents all expectations, assumptions or beliefs, conscious and unconscious, that a person accepts as a true explanation of the world in which he lives. “Beliefs help us explain some of the reality that in many cases put us in contradictory situations because they are deeply rooted in our mind map and it is very difficult to doubt that.
“It seems that men would rather believe than know. “Wilson?
How do we build beliefs? There are many ways in which we can form these small patterns of thought, begin with childhood experiences, directly or indirectly, on the one hand, we consider the associations we make and believe to be true, and on the other hand, “informational beliefs”.
Informational beliefs are those transmitted by a group of people (cultural, political, religious or social), beliefs are generally stubborn, but they are our allies, they help us to live in this world and interact with others, they can protect us in times of uncertainty, guide us and contribute to our internal stability and coherence.
However, there is a risk that the belief we have inherited or built for a particular element (love, justice, responsibility, society) will play against us, so it is important to know its influence, outline it, reduce or eliminate it. this, in cases where we believe it is a negative influence.
After years of research into theories of thought, psychologists have concluded that there are a number of irrational ideas and counterproductive beliefs common to our species, which appear several times in different (mainly Western) peoples and cultures. put aside irrational ideas, focus on so-called common counterproductive beliefs.
There are enemy beliefs that block us, called “common counterproductive beliefs. “We can’t feel guilty about having them and living under them. The word? Common? It shows us that this way of thinking is repetitive in many people, both in ours and in other cultures, the important thing is to detect these beliefs that are reflected in our behavior and work to transform them into others that can help us.
“Belief is involuntary; nothing that is involuntary is laudable or reprehensible. Can’t you consider a better or worse man because of your beliefs?Percy Bysshe Shelley?
It is important to remember that such ”instructions” are difficult to change because they are integrated into our customs and may even understeer to other beliefs. When we question a belief, we may be putting several others back on. When an idea is at the root of our system, it is very difficult to remove it.
Let’s think of three of these beliefs
I should never feel sad, anxious, inadequate, jealous or vulnerable. I need to hide my feelings under the carpet and not disturb anyone.
Currently, many messages are meant to keep us on the right side of each experience. In most cases, we confuse learning a negative situation with not allowing ourselves to feel and treat suffering, escaping negative emotions is not beneficial, the body and mind must balance and allow the feeling of negative emotions, this is very important to balance the mind and make sense of negative facts or experiences.
If you turn me down, prove something’s wrong with me. If I’m alone, I feel unhappy and worthless.
Certainly we’ve all felt the dagger of rejection at some point. The question we ask ourselves is immediate: why? Interpreting the answer can be dangerous if it comes from a misconception. It becomes painful when we misrepresent the explanations and take the blame associated with our low self-esteem. We often don’t believe in other people’s honest arguments. We focus on getting straight to our emotional center.
I can’t be happy and realized without being loved. If you don’t love me, it’s not worth living.
This belief is important because of the strength it has and can be overwhelming. To associate your worth as a human being with the acceptance and love of others is to leave to others what is most important to you. Feeling realized based on? That you receive carries many risks and mental pitfalls, when you live in search of love in a sick way, instead of falling in love with someone, you walk on the edge of an abyss where it is difficult to perceive one’s own. it’s worth it, because you put it at the bottom of this precipice.
These three beliefs are just one example of how our mental content can affect our behavior, behaviors that, at the same time, through the mechanism of self-fulfilling prophecy, mean a reinforcement of these beliefs, thus causing them to settle down and not question. Them.
“Each of us is a belief system, and is this system the filter with which we build our world view?Xavier Guix?