Toxic people, bad times or adversity do not always cause us misfortunes, on many occasions, more than we imagine, misery arises from our actions, through toxic habits that we repeat without thinking because they are part of our routine. Besides, instead of analyzing, and transforming them, we chose to blame luck by immersing ourselves in bitterness.
It is clear that being happy all the time is impossible, however, it is possible to maintain some balance and emotional well-being, it is simple when everything goes well. The problem arises when obstacles arise or we have to calculate a setback, which happens very often. Inertia, we continue to maintain these toxic habits, and by definition, the more we execute them the harder it will be. They have become a vicious circle in which we feel trapped.
It is not the difficulties that lead us down the path of bitterness, but our habits.
Many of us will feel identified with the toxic habits that we will mention below, it is curious because they are part of our life, without realizing how they negatively influence us, one of these human customs is to yearn for what we do not have. We underestimate what we have, we want more and more, to realize that we don’t need anything else to be happy is what will keep us from feeling disgusted and sad.
In the same way the opposite happens: emotional stagnation, circumstance in which we do not advance, but we will not go back, we stay in the famous comfort zone that holds us back, preventing us from growing and progressing, moving forward. And feel realized, why don’t we get out of it?What about insecure about us? Being honest with yourself and thinking about it will allow us to end a situation where we feel prisoners in our own prison.
Another toxic habit we are putting into practice is autopilot, that moment in our lives when we do not pay attention to the present we do not appreciate it, we move forward without stopping to think about what we are doing. if we were walking in a forest, without stopping to contemplate the beautiful landscape that appears around us, we move away from reality, we do not enjoy the here and now, and we lose a great pleasure.
Getting the approval of others is also a very toxic habit. We will never do anything because we want to, but because others will see us better.
Nor can we forget something that we often leave behind or in the background. We mean our diet and also our dream. Eating poorly, not maintaining a healthy diet, will have an obvious negative impact on our mood: we will not have the necessary energy level and we will have a loss of self-esteem. Similarly, getting enough sleep is important to work and feel better.
We leave for the end one of the toxic habits that resonated most in our relationships, playing the victim is, for many people, a resource to attract attention, among other privileges, however, this custom involves many other practices that immerse us in a very unfavorable reality situation.
Pretending to be victims causes us to fall into the trap of all the negative emotions we would have to try to release, yet we need it to feel sorry for ourselves and not feel responsible for what is happening to us. Closing our eyes, hugging each other, negativity, will not make us have anything but anger and resentment in our hearts.
Added to this is the terrible habit of denying reality; when that’s not what we’d like to observe, we just turn around and say it; however, this will not prevent him from being present, it will still exist no matter how much he does. As much as we don’t want to see it, and it will certainly hurt us strongly and violently at some point.
The habit of playing the victim is often accompanied by a tendency to blame others, we will never be responsible for what happens and, even if we do, we will try to be considered martyrs, for example, if we fail a subject. at school, we will never be responsible for not having studied enough or not being focused; it was the fault of the professor who did a very difficult test.
Becoming a victim will not allow us to know past experiences to face life.
In conclusion, there are many toxic habits that we maintain in our day to day and that we must abandon to feel good. Definitely the last one? Playing the victim is the most complicated to solve, not having the ability to be self-cryptic and accepting our mistakes will prevent us from being aware of all those customs that we include in our routine and that make us feel bad in our lives.