To love someone is to jump into the void and share the most intimate part of our being, so some people feel a lot of insecurity in love, because to love is to trust, to get carried away and to open the other.
The relationship should be a safe space where you can express yourself and show yourself what it is, because if it is not possible, the relationship can end up poisoned by insecurity and doubt.
- In this article.
- We’ll focus on the signs of insecurity in love that people who are already in a relationship or who have ended a relationship may have (one of the signs of insecurity in love is leaving?The battlefield?).
- I mean.
- You know someone.
- You love them very much.
- And insecurity.
- Vertigo.
- The fear of getting hurt begin to appear and you abandon them before the bond really formes.
In other words, “Get away? When you meet someone, it is a sign of insecurity already well known and identified, both by those who live them in their own skin and by those who have identified them in their partners. Other signs of insecurity that may go unnoticed and will be detailed below.
One of the signs of insecurity in love is the search for control, both about the relationship (the things that are done together) and on the other (what your partner does or doesn’t do) Do some people have one?Basic need – very high control, that is, they need a high degree of perceived control so as not to feel threatened, we are talking about a need that is often passed on to the couple.
In general, when one person tries to control the other, it’s because they feel insecure. An apparent need for very high control may also be related to psychological problems, such as obsessive-compulsive disorder.
In addition, the insecurity of love also manifests itself in the form of jealousy. Jealousy is the sign of insecurity par excellence; People who trust and trust their relationship can also feel jealous, but without the intensity or frequency that dominates them.
A good way to combat jealousy is to eliminate all the behaviors you achieve as a result of jealousy, for example, ask yourself where you are, what time you will arrive and who has seen it, view your profiles on social networks, etc.
Wanting your partner to show affection is a sign of insecurity, we all love to receive love and affection, but another is to count the amount of love gestures of the couple, are there people who really measure?And compare your partner’s love gestures with them and verbally ask the other to talk about the love you feel and, if possible, quantify.
Similarly, those who are not sure of their love can use phrases such as, “Aren’t you as affectionate with me as you are with your friends?”Or ‘when we’re home you don’t show your love, and when we’re with people you do. ‘ These phrases can be a sign of fear, insecurity, and low self-esteem.
On the other hand, keep in mind that these types of notes and comments are normal if they occur rarely, that is, if you almost never do or if it is not cause for discomfort. On the other hand, those who are certain in their relationship and understand in themselves that people go through different states and that each changes the openness to others, including the couple.
A study by Dr. Megan McCarthy of the University of Waterloo indicates that when you have low self-esteem, you tend to silence your needs so as not to disturb your partner, the problem is that, in most cases, it creates difficulties in building a healthy bond, because in the long run reproaches, criticism and a feeling of discomfort can arise.
Arguing and disagreeing with your partner is healthy, in fact, disagreements and differences are necessary to learn to live with others, understanding that they are different people, with their characteristics and needs.
Many try to avoid any omen of discussion, knowing that this is a sign of weakness in the couple, thus maintaining their opinions to maintain dialogues that always go in the same direction: what the other says.
This custom, which in the short term can benefit communication, ends up destroying the person and the partner himself; on the other hand, this lack of spontaneity, far from eliminating insecurity in love, will increase it.
The good thing is that the three signs we are talking about serve not only to identify insecurity, but also to start fighting it, after all, the couple is an important pillar capable of creating great well-being when one feels that one can be trusted. him (without pretending, as we are) and able to generate great tension when we don’t have that confidence.