From a very young time we have a skill that some call sixth sense, intuition or instinct, but that over time is destroyed by logic and rationality, not everything makes sense. Through our instincts, we can detect toxic people, know when someone isn’t right for us, or try to hurt us.
When we eliminate our instincts, we become more vulnerable people. Then why are we doing this? We weren’t raised the right way, adults think they know how to teach, but they don’t know there are very important skills, like instinct, and they don’t pay much attention to them.
“Intuition is the whisper of the soul. ” ? Krishnamurti?
The way we educate children is determined by how our parents and the people around us have educated us, so we repeat models without analyzing whether they are right or not, today we give you some examples of how certain attitudes can undermine your children’s instincts.
You may think that putting pressure on your children has positive results, but it’s not always the case. For example, when it comes to hugging or kissing other people. Everyone likes to be affectionate with children; But has anyone ever wondered if they want the same thing?
Imagine if someone forced you to kiss and kiss someone you don’t like, if your child doesn’t want to kiss or kiss someone and you force them, kill your instincts, understand that they should submit to the will of adults, whether they like it or not.
In recent years a new type of pressure has emerged that prevents children from enjoying their childhood, we are talking about extracurricular activities, which take children a long time and prevent them from doing what they know most and need: playing. with the parents will be much better.
Children learn early to participate in activities that will make them more competitive in the future, like them, or are satisfied with what they are doing. We kill his instincts; they will become adults who won’t know what they really want and will be swept away by any kind of work.
How many times have we heard, “Are you too fat to be afraid?”Or “Fear of darkness is nonsense. “In this way, we try to reassure our children, but we don’t really know their fears and that ends up becoming an obstacle.
The child learns that he must hide his fears so that others do not think that he is behaving ridiculously. Gradually he loses his instinct and in the future he will not be able to identify his true fears. This can cause them serious problems.
The fears that we cannot overcome become obstacles
Contrary to this attitude, some parents try to protect their children at all times, this feeling is normal, but sooner or later they will have to face problems, fears and situations, this attitude gives the child a false sense of security that will have serious consequences. consequences in the future.
When a child feels this false sense of security, his or her sixth sense is anesthetized and will not wake up if necessary. If you make a mistake, you will feel lost and anxious. We have the wrong idea that we should protect our children, but we really need to teach them to protect themselves.
Why do we always want to be right? Adults also make mistakes, but we want to be better, give a false appearance of perfection, we do not realize that we are as human and imperfect as others, this leads us to make many mistakes.
Don’t you understand why your parents told you to do something if they didn’t set an example themselves?This can confuse a child and can’t see what’s right or wrong.
We use many patterns of behavior with children without stopping to think about their real effects. We don’t realize we’re killing that natural instinct that can make their lives easier. Then why do we insist on taking him down? Instinct and rationality must be in balance, only then can we make the best decisions in life.
Images courtesy of Emily Combot, Oleg Versiev.