Although this is hard to believe, it is becoming increasingly common to find a harassing child, and more and more parents are seeking professional help, desperate for their children’s behavior. As a tyrannical child, we mean the one who enforces his law, who dominates his parents to do his will, and whose tantrums exhaust everyone.
The aggressor believes that he has the right to manipulate his family according to his wishes and to have an intense tantrum if his expectations are not met. He cannot bear the frustrations of everyday life and less puts he puts hesees in the place of his parents, because he acts to hurt them with the sole purpose of yielding to their demands.
- Studies suggest that genetics may influence somehow and predispose the child to be more aggressive than others.
- It has also been seen that tyrannical child is more in middle- and upper-class families and that it occurs more in boys than girls.
- Although this difference is gradually stabilizing.
Education seems to be a key factor in the child behaving like a bully with their parents, particularly the most permissive and overprotective parents have been found to be more likely to educate a child exhibiting behaviors similar to those described above.
Although education has a lot of influence on a child’s behavior, it is necessary for parents to learn the best way to educate their children, they should try to avoid certain standards that generally apply with the best intentions in the world, but that can be counterproductive in the long run.
If parents allow everything to the child when he asks, he will gradually begin to believe that he has the right to immediately win what he asks for, anything.
She grows up with this idea and the day comes when someone denies her a request, the tyrannical child will feel so angry that he will do whatever it takes to meet his expectations, as he had always done before. to control the will and authority of parents, who are afraid.
Frustration is a normal, healthy emotion that is part of life. Everything we want to happen in a certain way will not work. Sometimes life turns its back on us and we have to learn to tolerate it.
If we do not teach the child to accept frustration and try by all means to get everything he wants, we will create a tyrant child, unable to internalize the idea that the world does not revolve around him.
It is very important that children, from a young age, start solving their problems for themselves or with a little help, when we talk about problems, we are talking about small adversities that fit their age.
For example, if a child asks us to pick up his shoes when he or she is old enough to do it alone and even when he already knows how to do it, we should not be tempted to help or put shoes on him. be very uncomfortable for him, and the easiest thing for the child would be to turn to his parents, but it’s not the right way.
If you don’t learn, what will happen is that every time you encounter an obstacle in your life, you won’t have the resources to fix it, because we won’t even have given you the opportunity to develop them.
We can’t want our child not to react hostilely if we’re the first to get angry, scream, or talk harshly when adversity arises.
Although sometimes we end up getting tired, we think we’re going to blow it up and we can’t take it anymore, in fact we did, and aggression won’t help us solve anything at all, so take it easy for you and your kids to deal with problems.