Relationships are influenced by many messages about what this kind of relationship should look like, messages we’re definitely integrating.
A lot of information comes from everything that should be a relationship: through literature, film, music, television, commercials, etc. Many of these ideas are trapped in our minds and ultimately in our conduct.
- These beliefs help create certain expectations.
- Maintain relationships that are not as expected.
- So it is inevitable to sink into frustration.
Here are some of the most common myths
It is very common to believe that we all have half the orange, a person who will complement us, with which we will always be well and regain our fullness.
It’s a mistake to want to find someone to get us to our fullness. With this belief, we take responsibility to another person, in the sense that it is he who complements us.
There is neither perfect love nor full love. Thinking like this, the only thing you will get is feeling frustrated and, therefore, having unhappiness and relationship problems.
As soon as conflicts and differences arise in the relationship, you’ll think you’re not with the right person, that you no longer feel the same way about your partner, then you’ll see the relationship as a problem and move on to the quickest solution, which is to end it.
When we no longer know what to do, we collapse and use this solution in relationships that could strengthen, evolve, and mature in difficult situations.
Maintaining a healthy relationship does not mean being constantly filled with satisfaction, it is inevitable to go through difficult moments in which commitment and communication are put to the test, it is the only way for a relationship to consolidate and mature.
This is another very common belief that is in the minds of many of us, and we rarely realize that this idea is absurd and unrealistic.
Sometimes we believe that our companion has powers of divination and must know what we need, what we want and expect from him, without having to say it; In addition, if you don’t realize it, we get angry and thus begins a long path of conflict that deteriorates the relationship.
Gradually we become poisoned, we do not express our needs, we think it is our partner who should perceive them.
Beliefs about how sex should be in the relationship are another point to highlight in the myths that are sustained.
The romantic myth that everything must flow and develop at the perfect time is a great story that has nothing to do with reality, to maintain good sex it is necessary to communicate, share tastes, opinions and beliefs about it.
Learn together how a couple’s sexual relationship evolves. Make new proposals, innovate and ignite the flame of passion, whenever possible; respecting everyone’s time and needs.
There are many situations in the couple that require planning to have sexual encounters; either because of fatigue, short time or having a family life with children.
There are situations where, if you expect relationships to arrive spontaneously, you will suppress your needs again, allowing the relationship to cool down and become monotonous.
Love is necessary, but not enough for a relationship to continue, there are many other factors involved. The most important thing, no doubt, is mutual concern for relationship and love.
Conflicts are natural in a couple, they occur as the relationship progresses, they are healthy if they work with respect and sincerity.
There may be relationships in which there is a lot of love, but if it is not, under different circumstances, it is inevitable that the relationship will eventually fail, the relationship is not maintained if it is not equally important to both, and if there is no real participation, consider the other person as a priority.
These myths are part of our deepest beliefs about what a relationship should look like, which even if we have thought about it, can be difficult to assimilate and break. It requires a lot of effort, commitment and personal work; this way of doing things automatically.