Have you ever found yourself doing something you didn’t just want to please someone?There are those who are constantly complacent because they don’t want others to get angry. It’s a very negative standard of behavior. If you’re not careful, you’ll feel lost at some point.
“One of the most liberating things we can learn in life is that no one needs to love us, not everyone needs to love us, and that’s fine. -Anonymous-
- I’m sorry to break your illusion.
- But there will always be people who won’t feel an affinity with you.
- Actually.
- It’s not good or bad.
- It’s just a reality of life.
When you are tempted to be complacent to be accepted, stop, breathe, and think of something else.
People who seek to please everyone tend to have low self-esteem, so they need others to recognize it.
The best way to stop being complacent is to learn to love who you are and work on your self-esteem.
“If you live to please others, everyone will love you less yourself. -Paulo Coelho-
Such a short word usually creates a lot of problems when we avoid it
Are you one of those people who doesn’t even plan to give a negative answer?, Do you feel tired and angry because you have less and less time for yourself ?, Learn to say?No!?
Don’t worry, no one will die and the world won’t end because you’re no longer complacent. The worst thing that can happen is that the people who accompany you for the benefits they usually get leave eventually. you’ll see this isn’t bad.
You must also forget about the excuses, be honest and answer one?Not sincere. If the other person is trying to convince you, explain the reasons for the “no. “
You’ll feel guilty the first time you stop being complacent
Instead of changing the answer, think about how it makes you feel. You may feel that you are selfish or that you are failing the other person. Then think about why you weren’t complacent and compare.
For example, imagine your sister asking you to take care of your children because she wants to go to the movies with her husband. That day, you were planning to go out with a friend and have fun. Would it really be so wrong to say, your sister? It might be worth changing your plans if you had to go to the hospital for an emergency, but not for dinner.
You need to evaluate situations and not feel guilty about being yourself. If you don’t feel safe, make a list of the pros and cons of your decision.
When you stop being complacent, you’ll notice that your friends list will be reduced. Do not worry. This simply shows who your real friends are and who is interested in enjoying you.
You’ll find that when you start improving your self-esteem, toxic or negative people give up your life. The good news is that great people will also appear.
In the event that a family member tries to take advantage of you, simply mark your limits, be it your mother, your son or your brother, everyone has to value their decisions and respect them, it will be difficult, but you will avoid feeling used and you will obtain an incredible inner peace.
“Let life sink and you’ll find doors where you least expect them. -Anonymous-
Remember that not being complacent is a process, you have to learn some behaviors and give up others. Don’t worry, you won’t become a bad person, it’s just you.