“Of all possible knowledge, is the wisest and most useful to know yourself?
William Shakespeare
- Helping our children recognize themselves.
- Understanding their emotions.
- And valuing their attitudes is the key to achieving good emotional health throughout their lives.
Self-care is the key that opens the door to emotional realization, once acquired this skill we can be sure that we will always have a strategy of emotional regulation at our service.
Therefore, it is of great importance to cultivate these aspects in our children so that they grow up healthy and happy, here are 4 lessons that will help us to enhance self-awareness in children:
Believing that we are what we think is a very common mistake in thinking of both children and adults. In addition, at certain ages, children often tag almost everything, including people.
First, these classifications can be an important strategy for the relationship with the world, yet they undermine the recognition of our identity and we end up believing that, deep down, we are the great, the great, the beautiful or the intelligent.
This, of course, does not define a person, but ends up determining their behaviors and thoughts if they are, for a long time, subject to external labels and expectations.
The child must understand this, just as he has a very different inner world, so must others.
If the child understands that his partner is not only “the one who plays football best”, but also thinks, feels, laughs and cries, then we will be halfway to understand that we are all independent.
“Knowing others well is intelligence, getting to know each other well is wisdom.
einstein
The child must understand that before an emotion manifests itself strongly (e. g. discontent), he has given us several warnings and manifests himself, in a subtle way, at different levels.
We can use the recipe metaphor. It’s about the child reflecting on the taste of his emotions and gradually recognizing each of his or her ingredients. You can start the game at the beginning or by the end, that is, with the dish cooked or raw and, thus, beat each ingredient or peculiarity that makes up the taste of emotion.
It is very common for us to ask ourselves the wonderful question: what do you want to be when you’re older, then the children answer us: doctor, nurse, hairdresser, carpenter?, then, as if that were not enough, we asked why he had made this choice.
“Wanting to be an adult, ” after all, is a piece of cake, but does that define them?Of course not! This is just one example, but children need to understand that not only are we what we want to be, but we are constantly managing our identity.
Therefore, children need to understand that their search and attitude will mark their future, not their expectations or ambitions, we must let them mentally explore their possibilities and the path they must travel, always fostering a proactive and independent attitude towards their future. will help them not to brake in front of them.
“Seeing is more than looking. Seeing is paying attention to detail. To see a flower, you have to look with a magnifying glass, inside. “
Alain (French philosopher and essayist)
Recognizing your mood and thoughts will allow you to properly develop your socio-emotional skills.
However, getting our children to achieve this level of emotional development requires an investment of time and effort, the first thing to do is to avoid the hasty contamination and bad habits that today’s adult society maintains.
Children should be facilitated and allowed to develop a daily habit of thinking about what they have done, how they have felt, what they like, and how they can do it.
It’s just a matter of inviting you to start the game considering your day, your skills and what you don’t like. An ideal way to do this is to make an analogy between your mind and a thinking machine, so that you understand the importance of connecting with your inner self.