Addictions are a reality very present in the human being because, in a way, we will always depend on something or someone, this is not necessarily negative, but it does involve a task to be fulfilled: to modulate and decant these experiences, so that you do not interfere in the path of our desires and our personal development.
There are reasonable dependencies that, duly formed, are healthy for our development, for example, interdependence with the loving partner or family, this need and mutual response that unites us intimately, without damaging freedom or limiting growth, fosters our emotional world.
- “Because no one can know of you.
- No one can grow up for you.
- No one can look for you.
- No one can do for you what you have to do for yourself.
- Doesn’t he admit to the existence of representatives?.
Other addictions, on the other hand, leave us stagnant. They offer little or nothing for our well-being and have the power to disconnect from ourselves, in the end they put us at the service of something or someone, without a fair retribution in return, here are some of them.
Relying on the opinions of others means guiding behaviors, tastes and desires according to the degree of approval of others, that is, the central objective is not to reaffirm who we are, but to achieve the acceptance of others.
In this logic, criticism of others acquires unusual value, it is lived as an emotional wound that can affect us deeply.
The other is the definitive reference, not only for specific behaviors, but also for our entire life project, it is one of the most corrosive addictions, since it degrades, alienates and makes people subservient.
Fear of abandonment is a very common addiction, it usually affects those who have been in need or homeless during childhood, it is a void that nothing and no one can fill and that is often carried as an open wound.
Fear of abandonment is generally not conscious. The person simply develops excessive attachment behaviors with those who become the object of his love. In particular, this happens with the couple or close friends.
There is a fear of losing these people and, therefore, of possessiveness and anxiety in the bond.
Fashion is a theme that many people consider superfluous and un important, but few are able to distinguish their own tastes from fashion dictation.
Fashion trends refer not only to clothing, but also to tastes, preferences and even ideologies and philosophies.
Many, for example, wonder whether the vegan lifestyle is really the result of reflection and conviction, or whether many of their followers have simply joined a fashion.
This desire to be part of a group sometimes leads to an addiction. Aren’t you going to be in it, it becomes a major concern for many, which can lead them to disfigure their own identity.
Physical appearance is another myth that shapes many consciences, there are those who give it too much importance and end up building dependencies around this aspect, come to believe that their value as human beings is intimately related to their appearance.
While it is true that physical appearance has an important weight in today’s world, it is also clear that it is a game of shadows and lights that is often ephemeral, beauty opens doors and facilitates the realization of the goodwill of others. it is not enough to go beyond this first chapter, to depend on it is to depend on an illusion.
Money is another one of those mirages in which many are lost. Generates dependency when directly associated with the value each person has as a person. Having and not having money is part of most mortals’ lives. Few people maintain a peace. Financial situation without any interruption.
Relying on money often means believing that happiness is in consumption, or assuming that the richer one is, the more valuable it is in human terms, so having no money would amount to losing everything, including being.
All these addictions are very harmful because they stop instead of offering support, they take more than they give. They involve a certain degree of alienation and disconnection from the truer of ourselves.
It would be timely to think as if we were kites: tied to a point, but free on our flight.