Friedrich Nietzsche said: “In love there is madness, but in madness there is always a reason. Is that why the characteristics of a healthy relationship can be found again?”
It is commonly said that when we meet our loved one, we go ‘crazy with love’. However, in every relationship, there must be a small reason. Can we call people who understand each other a “healthy couple”? Or a thousand other ways. But above all, it can be said that it is possible to find the balance or, at least, some experts believe that it is.
- In this article we will base ourselves on the theories of the Catalan psychologist Encarni Muñoz.
- This relationship specialist believes that to have a healthy relationship.
- The first thing you need to do is listen to your own criteria.
- What do you need in a relationship? What can the person on your side offer you?.
An important point to have a healthy relationship is that everyone should be responsible for their own happiness, it is essential that love for others is based on a strong self-love and self-esteem that reinforces the idea that we have many valuable things to add to the relationship.
Remember that if you are a person who does not value you, you may end up blaming or becoming very dependent on your partner, so the relationship must be between equals, where the two find a balance in the sharing of responsibilities.
The second point in which the expert highlights is the importance of communication to establish and maintain the balance that we discussed earlier, the key to this is to use empathy and open the channels of active listening.
It won’t be easy, but it’s necessary to maintain the ability to understand the other person. We need to understand his point of view and why he does what he does. We must be flexible and tolerant, even if we disagree. You’re on the same side and you have a common goal.
A healthy relationship should never be based on lies, that is a fundamental point. Therefore, both parties should be honest about the main points that unify the couple, so if something bothers you, don’t keep it until you saturate it, talk openly about all the questions.
“When someone shows the way he really is, do we trust him?Maya Angelou?
Also, as far as you know your partner, you don’t know what they’re thinking at all times, if you choose the way you think you always know everything about it, many situations can lead to negative discussions and dynamics. clear and objective in expressing your opinions. There’s nothing wrong with being vulnerable to your partner.
The next element is a classic of relationships, if there is no trust between the two parties will rarely get positive results, it is important to create an environment of mutual trust, where the couple feels supported and protected.
In this way, you will always be able to count on the support of the other person to live, walk and move forward, in addition, trust scares away storms like those that bring jealousy. Think, if your partner loves you and you love him, what’s your fear?
“To love is not to look at each other, but to look at the two in the same direction. “Antoine Saint-Exupéry?
If people focus on what’s in their expectations, switching to the other person, or deferring to become a better husband or wife, the relationship will have little chance of a future together. A healthy relationship lives in the present, in the here and now.
Just as you can’t live in the future, you can’t live in the past. Almost all couples have problems. However, once they are defeated and forgiven, leave them there in the past, don’t bring them back in the event of an argument, or use them as a weapon to hit or rebuke the other.
As Walter Winchell said: “Never above you, never beneath you, always by your side.
These are the characteristics of a healthy relationship, or at least that’s what psychologist Encarni Muoz believes.