Intolerance of old age and the elderly is another contemporary evil that has gradually settled in the world and not knowing when, from a loving source of wisdom, the elders have become beings, many of whom do not know what to do. many face rejection, forgetfulness and contempt.
The contemporary ideal focuses on youth as the source of all well-being. Although this is not true, many believe in this premise and act on it. Physical strength is now the most important thing. An older person does not fit into this equation and their vulnerability is not something that others want to deal with.
“The first forty years of life give us the text; the next thirty, the comments ?. -Arthur Schopenhauer-
The most fragile people are often relegated. It happens to children, the elderly and the sick, among others. Young adults, healthy, strong and making the most of their potential, are always looking for someone who delegues the care and care that is their responsibility, that of their own children, their own parents or their family. ; there doesn’t seem to be time for them.
That is why we want to dedicate this article to you, because with your struggle in life you have won at least these five considerations that we will detail below.
Trying to change someone is almost disrespectful. Who said you had the truth, the reason, or the wisdom to do it?Only those who believe better in themselves than others try to change others. The concept of? Better or worse, it is extremely relative and very dangerous, especially when used in the first person.
No matter who we’re talking about, an older person has been through a lot, his own judgment was formed, right or not. She has acquired her own habits, tastes and customs, no one has the right to try to convince you that you must think or act differently, in fact, it is very likely that no matter how hard you try you will not succeed. change the person’s mind. By accepting differences, avoid unnecessary unpleasant moments.
Your father or grandfather may be convinced of something that may seem absurd to you. Your religious or political beliefs may be very different from yours. Older people, in good faith, sometimes want to try to convince him that they’re right.
Please note that an older person has accumulated a large piece of baggage that should not be despised. It is thought as he thinks is not the fruit of chance, but of the experiences and knowledge acquired. It is not a good idea to engage in unnecessary discussions so that they understand their point of view. Offer active, loving and respectful listening: this is what they deserve.
Older people are often shy or afraid to expose their own interests and hobbies. In today’s world, their word is not taken very seriously, unless they occupy positions of power. While many are annoyed or apathetic, there are many others who still feel they have messages to convey, and these messages are important.
This can be reading, gardening or even sports; it would be wonderful if you tried to discover these orphaned interests; and if you already know them, or if you’ve already figured out what they are, it’s worth helping the person go beyond interest. In recent years of life, having a hobby can be an extraordinary balm.
They say there’s one test we should all do: cover the forgetfulness with cotton, apply Vaseline to the eyes and stick two bricks at our feet, so try to live like this for an hour. In this way we would know how a person feels at an advanced age, perhaps in this way we will learn to be more tolerant of the limitations of older adults.
If you’re walking with an older person, walk at your own pace and don’t ask for more than you can give them, if you don’t listen when you speak, make an effort to speak louder and clearer, rather than blaming yourself. for not listening. Listen to her health problems by paying attention and treating her the way you’d like to be treated when you’re your age.
Some older people may be very stubborn, they may even want to challenge the younger ones, in fact, there is a time when they behave again like children, in the midst of this late infantilism, many develop outlandish behaviors.
Remember that behind the way older people do things there is a reason, they are going through very big changes and they face the idea that they will die in a few years, their obstitions and whims help them compensate for the feeling of vulnerability and fear. who feel Don’t give more importance to these pipes than to them.
Parents and grandparents are also a source of wisdom, even if they haven’t learned to read and write, listen to them, and spend time with them can nourish your heart in an incredible way, harboring your vulnerability makes you a better person, and gives your life a deeper meaning.