What characterizes emotionally immature people? Problems of maturity and immaturity give rise to many myths; people don’t admit to being tagged or analyzed by a single aspect; each of us is a vessel in which different forms of consciousness are mixed: we are ignorant and wise, children and the elderly, mature and immature We are a mixture, although at the moment, some characteristics stand out more than others.
Emotional immaturity can be defined as a condition in which people have not given up their childhood desires or fantasies, believe that the world revolves around them and that it is there to satisfy their desires and fantasies, or that reality must adapt to what they desire. Emotional maturity can be defined as a state of strength and temperance that leads to realistic and balanced behaviors.
- “Maturity begins to manifest when we feel that we care more about others than about ourselves.
- “Albert Einstein?.
More than an abstract definition, maturity or immaturity manifests itself in behavioral characteristics, here we list five characteristics characteristic of emotionally immature people.
Understanding that the world doesn’t revolve around you is an important step in the process of maturity. The baby doesn’t know. Then order food at 2 a. m. and he doesn’t care if it affects his parents’ sleep. As you get older, you learn to recognize that you don’t always get everything you want, that others and your world also have your needs. .
Mature happens to get out of jail and lose the illusion that surrounds a baby’s life: just ask for a need or a desire to be satisfied, as we lose this fantasy, we also become aware of a beautiful possibility: the adventure of exploring the world. of others. If all goes well, we will learn to preserve and join you.
A clear sign of immaturity in people is the difficulty of making commitments, it is very difficult for a child to give up what he wants at that time to achieve a long-term goal, if we treat you and tell you that if he does not eat it at that time, he will get one more, the need to eat the candy in his hand will prevail.
Through the process of maturity, we understand that sacrifices and restrictions are necessary to succeed. Committing to a goal or a person is not a limitation of freedom, but a condition for better long-term planning.
Children are guided for much of their lives by others and do not act on their will, however, they are being formed and integrated into a culture, although they are small believe that error is punished, they do not care much about the harm they have caused, but about the punishment or punishment they can receive.
Growing up is abandoning this gentle state of irresponsibility. To mature is to understand that we are solely responsible for what we do or do not do, recognize your mistakes and learn from them. Learn how to repair the damage you’ve caused and learn to apologize.
For immature people, others are a means and not an end in themselves. They don’t need others because they love them, but they love them because they need them. In this way, they often build bonds through addiction.
To make connections based on freedom, we are required to have autonomy. However, emotionally immature people don’t have a clear idea of what autonomy is. They often believe that satisfying their desires is autonomous behavior, but to take responsibility for the consequences of their actions, they need others to protect, conceal, or alleviate their responsibility.
Impulsivity is one of the most striking characteristics of immature people, an impulsiveness that is often expressed in the way they manage their resources, such as money, so, to immediately satisfy their desires, they buy what they don’t need with money they don’t need. Have.
Sometimes they embark on strange economic adventures: they do not objectively analyze investments and do not value the medium and long-term consequences, so they continue to live in debt, only to satisfy all their whims.
The person does not decide to be immature. All these characteristics of immaturity do not occur or remain with the conscious decision of individuals, they are almost always the result of gaps or voids in childhood or they can be the result of unfortunate experiences that have prevented them from evolving. or you know someone like that, don’t judge him. In fact, the important thing is to realize that stimulating your own emotional growth can lead to a better life.
Main image courtesy of Catrin Welz-Stein.