We all know that gestures and postures reveal a lot about each person’s personality, attitude or mood, without realizing each one adopts ways of looking, walking, positioning ourselves in front of others, integrating these methods and ending up being part of our own style, which sometimes?and show what we didn’t want to miss.
There are social situations in which treatment is ephemeral and ephemeral, people get an idea of us seeing things we are aware of and things we are not, they create an opinion based on what we say, but also about what we express through our gestures and postures.
- Is it perceptive?It means being able to identify the contradictions between a person’s words and their body language.
- Allan Pease-.
It would not be a problem if it were not for the fact that these ephemeral situations are also of great importance, it can be a job interview or a one-off meeting to establish contacts that interest us, in addition, and why not, these situations in which we want to please someone who interests us emotionally and in which we want the other person to have a good and positive feeling of this encounter.
For these reasons, it is worth learning to recognize our actions and decipher what they express, it is also important to improve them so that they can play alongside us in different situations of life, to achieve this we will see below some gestures that hurt. us and that it would be nice to change.
When you bite your lower lip, whatever its shape, you feel a degree of rejection of what comes out of your mouth, without you or others noding, this is one of the actions that will be interpreted as a doubt, or false in relation to what you say.
This gesture also indicates that there is a hidden message. People usually say, “I bit my mouth so as not to mention this or that. “That’s a correct interpretation. When you do that, it shows that there’s something you’re not saying that contradicts what’s been said on some level.
Frowning is a sign of irritation, discomfort or disapproval, the truth is that this is one of the actions that, in most cases, is carried out due to a certain tension of the moment, however, there are those who do it so frequently who do not end up sculpting this gesture on his face
When there’s fear or nervousness, you frown. In addition, this gesture can convey a lack of trust in each other and in itself. We also raise our eyebrows when we want to focus on observation or when we take a defensive position.
This is one of the most difficult gestures to control, as it is an almost automatic reaction to situations that cause nervousness, it is normal to blink 14 to 17 times per minute. But when we’re nervous, that number increases considerably.
The worst thing is that when we start blinking a lot and repeatedly, our interlocutor’s attention turns to this curious gesture. It is easy for our interlocutor to stop listening to what we are saying and focus more on that insecurity that we express with our eyes.
Hands are pure expression. They stand out, run away, rate or complete what you say, so when a person talks and moves his hands a lot is seen by others as a more spontaneous and reliable person, which generates a sense of sincerity.
On the other hand, when someone hides their hands when they speak, they communicate otherwise, it’s like the person is hiding something. It is not practical to put your hands back, get into your pockets, hide under the table or cross your arms, if you do you will raise a barrier in your communication.
Smile is undoubtedly one of the most open-minded gestures, when someone smiles at you without realizing you open up positively to conversation, it’s an excellent precedent for making dialogue positive, serene and kind.
However, when a person smiles or laughs all the time the effect can be unfavorable, in this case expresses nervousness, lack of concentration or an excessive desire to be accepted, this message is not positive and becomes an obstacle for it to be properly valued.
In all these cases, it is not a question of assuming a false or invented identity, on the contrary. Through gestures a person can learn much more about himself, thus, by becoming aware of how he communicates with others, through his body language, the person can adapt the message he really wants to express of himself.
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