In all the time that has passed since we arrived in the world, countless things have happened, some are good and some are not too good. We carry a bag of experiences that, even if we try to avoid, are always with us.
We took possession of it when we want to remember the things that made us happy. For others, we don’t forget, but we try to have “selective amnesia. “Should we be proud of your individual baggage, even if we’ve never thought about charging you for certain events that may be hurting us?
- This background has more wisdom about you than any book and opinion.
- You know the demons you’ve been dragging since you were a kid and how many times you’ve been hurt.
- The times you felt perfect somewhere and the times you felt.
- That a place was anything but yours?.
All experiences are part of who you are now, and sometimes you will feel happy and sometimes you will feel deeply sad In these sad moments our wounds open up, caused by harm to our being?
We may think they were scars, but sometimes they burn again because their nature is to get our attention, because maybe that damage will happen again in our lives.
That’s why there are countless wounds that we heal, but never end up healing, that’s what we talk about next.
It humiliates us when someone attacks our dignity as a person in different ways. It is a way of denigrating ourselves as a person, in private or in public; the latter being the hardest.
The consequences of feeling humiliated have a direct impact on self-esteem, trust in others, and hope in what you do and expect from the world. When someone humiliates you, you feel that something that already belonged to you has taken you away, and the person has done it in the cruellest way possible.
Humiliation can occur because of its physical appearance, economic level, gender, race, intellectual level, disease, etc. It can be a clearly identifiable attack or irritating treatment over a period of time This is one of the most difficult situations to overcome. , because of the psychological implications it generates on us.
“A lot of disgust would be avoided if those who boast of satiricals took into account that every man, even the stupid one, takes himself very seriously, and that if anyone endures a frank and loyal contradiction, will no one forgive ridicule?
? Santiago Ramon and Cajal?
When a person disappoints us, all the hopes and expectations that we had placed in him and in our relationship collapse, it is a mixture of shock, anger, surprise and pain, maybe it is someone from our family, a childhood friend, a colleague or just someone. We think he was a good person, incapable of betraying certain principles towards ourselves or the world in general.
We can be frustrated by this disappointment and even depressed, and obviously our ability to trust others as before will be reduced or even eliminated.
“Do our best hits come after our biggest disappointments?
-Henry Ward Beecher-
When a person deceives us, we generally think that what he said about his feelings for us was not only a lie, but was characterized on the contrary.
Usually when they betray us it is because they have first earned our trust. We took his word for it to the end and believed that all his actions were honest and sincere, but we found out that it was the exact opposite.
The first feeling? Disbelief, then he may have been angry, crying, feeling ridiculous; However, it should not be forgotten that the betrayed person will feel what happened at that time and remember this betrayal on some other occasions, but the person who committed treason will carry that burden on his conscience and his reputation will be influenced.
Sometimes this fact is not comforting, but do we have to think that kindness is generally rewarded and lying is punished, at some point, so that we can move on?
“Treason, even if it is dreamed, is abhorrent. “
-Félix Maria Samaniego-
A lot of people say that what hurts the most is indifference, but it can be worse when you address someone who doesn’t deserve it, ignoring someone is not valuing the person, acting like it doesn’t exist, and that hurts?
There may be indifference designed to harm another person, group indifference to someone or something to intentionally harm, or simply an attitude that reveals neither rejection nor closeness, an attitude in which a person neglects everything that another person speaks, feels, or says.
When we suffer from indifference from people close to us, without giving us an explanation, we feel so useless, as if we do not deserve an explanation, excuse or warning of your change in attitude under certain circumstances.
The worst way to show indifference towards someone is negligence; for example, parents who are unaware of their children’s basic needs for food, care or support.
“The worst sin against our neighbor is not to hate them, but to be indifferent to them; Is this the essence of humanity?
? William Shakespeare
This is not intentional or premeditated harm as in previous cases, the people we love do not choose to die to harm us, however, when they disappear from the world, something in our world disappears with them.
In a world where it is sometimes difficult to find honest people willing to truly love and be loved, any loss of a person with these characteristics who, after all, has shared much of his life with us, with the love and memories that this entails. can be devastating.
Even if we recover, there are some injuries that hurt again when we are the most vulnerable, every moment of our lives when we feel lost or sad, when we do not know how to adapt certain aspects of our identity, the painful fact we are aware that our greatest comfort in this situation that is no longer with us will always be hard, no matter how long it takes.
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