Who doesn’t have a friend or acquaintance who always seems happy?In fact, he seems so happy that sometimes his unwavering positive attitude can irritate us. A lot of people think they have no right to show such an attitude, because in reality, not everything is so positive to manifest this degree of joy, is it?The truth is, we all seek happiness. That’s our goal, but we secretly think it’s wrong to see someone so happy.
But would we think the same way if we were in your place?
- This person presents himself in this way because the ABILITY to be HAPPY RESTS ON HER.
- Happiness is a state.
- Not an end.
- If your basic needs are met and you’re not happy.
- We tell you some possible causes of your emotional misery: five beliefs that prevent you from living your happiness.
1. The belief that life is right
Life isn’t always fair, but it’s not unfair at all times either. It is true that nothing seems positive enough to be happy about it, but there will never be anything totally positive or totally negative. Don’t waste any more time and energy wanting for something impossible: that the world is right. It’s best to invest your efforts to improve your day and be fair to yourself and others.
2. The belief that the risk will go wrong
Since we are babies life is about taking risks, even if we do not agree, we are at risk at some point in our first few months: we get up and walk, despite the insecurity we feel in doing this task. take steps towards our future.
Staying on the easy track will protect you in the short term, but it won’t allow you to move forward in life and will cause you frustration and long-term apathy. On the other hand, happy people are like the baby who gets up and walks: they stray from the road because, although it is difficult at that time, they will open up a range of possibilities that, far from frustrating them, will help develop them and increase their chances of being happy.
3. The belief that we control everything
There is no control over everything: life is a sea of surprises, some bad, some good!There’s no need to be afraid. Don’t waste your time trying to control everything because we never know how something is going to happen, this is what makes sense of our lives, not knowing what comes next and therefore continuing to walk and discover.
4. Belief that suffering is bad
Imagine something’s not working. You will suffer and many will suffer for your suffering, but you know what?Suffering is not bad. Nature is unpredictable, so you have to adapt to survive, suffering is normal. Wouldn’t it be alarming if something happened to you and you didn’t suffer it?If we did not suffer, we would fall into the same mistake several times, because we would not learn that such a mistake has negative consequences and would not progress, it would stand still and not adapt to change.
5. Believing that others are better than you
We all have strengths and weaknesses, but do we think others are better than us?What nonsense! What is happening is a purely adaptive mechanism, the better we are, the better we will adapt, the stronger we will be and survive, so our brain will focus on what others do well so that we are aware that we can do better;
Know your brain and cheat, win the fight! As human beings, we all have the same ability to experience happiness, pain, need and comfort. Use these common skills by focusing on your strengths and avoiding the need for approval from others. We’re all approved, each in their own way.
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