Emotions allow us to connect with others, but it is sad that we often tend to hide them, there are four essential or fundamental emotions (although some authors admit one or the other): sadness, anger, fear and joy. , only one considers positive, but that is a value that gives him our culture, so distinguishing between the negative and the positive can be an obstacle to the liberation of emotions.
From our experiences, in which we were vulnerable and hurt ourselves, we begin to hide our sadness by projecting an image of strength, we do not express our anger for fear of the disapproval of others, we hide our fear by making us dominate, and we control our joy because on several occasions we have already been caught in the attention of expressing it spontaneously.
“Doubts, fears and insecurities prevent us from expressing what must, by nature, be conveyed. “
The aforementioned situations are the product of underestimating your emotions and their importance in relation, for example, to the importance given to logical intelligence, you may think, as many have probably seen, that emotions weaken you. cause nothing but strong containment.
By not giving importance to your emotions, you become an expert in “swallowing” everything you don’t want and can’t digest, this, in the long run, will make you feel very bad, because it will outperform you and you. you will have accumulated emotions that will eventually leave your body uncontrolled. You’ll have air and you won’t be able to breathe.
Do you want anger to flow at a meeting at work?Do you think it’s right to be cruel to a friend for generating emotions?If you’ve been through these situations before or want to avoid them, it’s time to change the way you handle your emotional management.
You may have tried to release emotions at some point and are left with such terrible guilt, this happens when you express them without being aware, consider the need to know the right way to communicate what we feel, with respect to the other person. .
In fact, this lack of consciousness can be seen when you suppress so much your emotions that explode at any time, in this case you have no mercy, no matter who is in front of you.
So express your emotions whenever you want, opening your eyes a lot and feeling empathy with the person in front of you to avoid hurting her, and avoid hurting yourself if you don’t know how to handle these kinds of situations.
The key not to let your emotions run a long way is that when you need them, let them out, this doesn’t mean that in some contexts you have to do it, for example in an interview or in any other similar situation It doesn’t make sense to release emotions in this way, because it would hurt you.
However, this does not mean that it should never be done, in fact, it is necessary to do so. Where do you feel free and well?Where do you feel safe to express everything inside you?Go to this place and open up to let out what’s inside you.
If you are angry, take a pillow, punch or something else; If you notice that fear invades you, let yourself tremble, feel it in every pore of your skin and accept it; if what happens is that you are sad, cry, scream or look for the person whose embrace will dispel the crying.
Emotions don’t usually last long. Joy, for example, is momentary, not lasting hours and hours. However, when an emotion lasts longer than “normal,” we go from talking about an emotion to talking about an emotional state.
For example, you may feel sad, but if this sadness begins to be supported by thoughts that come and go, become ruminant, generate anxiety, then you cling to that emotion and prevent it from following its natural course.
Sometimes it is necessary to know how to distinguish the moment when emotion began to feed on our thoughts, becoming the product of those insecurities, fears and beliefs that affect it, on certain occasions we build a mountain with a simple grain of sand.
If you find yourself in an environment where it is common to say phrases such as “don’t cry”, “don’t smile too much”, “don’t be angry”, say that you have the right to express yourself and that this is very necessary for you, do it out of respect and seeking the understanding of others.
The important thing is to make sure you express how you feel simply because it can annoy others, something very common and the result of an education that keeps us and prevents us from being who we are, if you need to express your emotions do it. There’s nothing wrong with that!
“When you express your emotions, remember: don’t hurt yourself, don’t hurt others. –Martha Sialer–
From a young age, we’re constantly told not to do that, not to prove this?At the end of the day, we adopt the custom of keeping everything we want to say and express ourselves, while we hurt ourselves by this harmful attitude.
Let’s not let what we feel poison us because other people will be disturbed by our emotions. Maintaining and retaining them many times means they start to be the result of rumors in our brains, and they will last longer than they should. Let’s start letting your natural path flow.