As damning as they may be, lies always seem attractive and seductive. While many truths clash with frustrating cruelty, for many lies it is the exact opposite: do they deceive?Does the word illusion have much to do with deception?And even motivate.
Not all lies have these characteristics, but many of them do, it is those lies that we tell or tell each other and that we like to believe because they correspond better to our desires, or allow us to see the world in a way that corresponds better to what we expect.
- “He who lies does not imagine the task he has undertaken.
- For he will be forced to invent another twenty to first sustain the certainty of it.
- “Alexander Pope?.
Not for nothing, one of the kings of lies, Adolf Hitler, said that the bigger the lie, the more people will believe it. In fact, we often know that something is not true, however, we strive to maintain its certainty even after the lie has been proven. For example, review an inventory of 5 of these lies we like to believe.
It’s a widespread idea. They say that feeling anger poisons and that the best way to do it is not to let the fury run freely, you’re supposed to experience a shock and be at peace as soon as you scream and give voice to everything that happens in your head at that moment, without censorship, you’ll experience a shock and you’ll be at peace.
That’s absolutely not true. Anger creates addiction and grows exponentially: its uncontrolled manifestation introduces it into a circle that nourishes it.
This means that if you don’t learn to manage discomfort, you’ll become more and more likely to feel them, making it harder in future situations to exercise self-control, which can start with screaming and, over time, make a person end up in the hospital. Anger is released with relaxation, not with uncontrolled manifestations in a damage-sensitive environment.
Self-esteem is a concept that has been recognized in recent years as a factor that influences our own behavior, it is true that those who have a good opinion of themselves suffer less in social situations and spend less energy on unnecessary anxieties.
However, having good self-esteem doesn’t automatically lead to success, and impaired or inflated self-esteem doesn’t lead to failure. The story is full of examples of great men and women who have always doubted themselves and, despite this, have made fantastic contributions. Healthy self-esteem may predispose to good adaptability and therefore less interest in asking deep questions or having serious concerns, but it is never a certainty or a sufficient condition.
Is the love of life, another of those myths that everyone wants to believe, is one of those lies that comfort, or contribute to an illusory view of the emotional world, it is a mistake to think that there is a love that adapts completely and that, precisely for that reason, is “the life of all”.
Each choice involves a number of exceptions. If you choose a profession, you will set aside many other trades to those who may also have talent. If you choose a romantic relationship forever, you’ll give up many other people you might have been as happy or happier than the person. you chose.
It can be said that all loves are imperfect. One love can provide what another does not provide, but in turn you will also discover other parts covered by the previous love.
The truth is that we don’t always get what we want, even if we work it or spend the best of our time doing it. We can fully desire it and work tirelessly, but we will not always achieve it. There.
Sometimes we outline certain goals inappropriately, pointing to goals that are simply impossible to achieve. We can’t and can’t go back in time even if we want to, the reality is that we won’t be able to win an Olympic medal in athletics if we’re already a certain age and we never play sport.
Understanding that there are too many challenges does not mean that there are other difficult and dreamy ones that, with effort, cannot be achieved and, mainly, exploited.
For a rational society, it is difficult to accept that there are unanswered questions, or realities that cannot be given an exact cause, to say so, does everything have a reason to be ?, is one of the most popular lies, because it gives us the feeling that reality is logical in itself, something totally controllable.
The truth is that the reason for being, or the sense of things, is something that everyone gives or stops giving according to their feelings and beliefs. Nothing has a reason to be in itself, but men and cultures define the causes or explanations of the facts of life according to what they desire or the principles in which they place their faith.
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