Forgiveness is a powerful weapon that allows you to live in peace with others and, above all, in peace with yourself, yet many people do not understand how liberating it can be to forgive others.
Forgiveness can be a double-edged sword. In fact, it’s a common way to manipulate others into doing what you want, so it’s important to understand forgiveness and learn to set limits to protect yourself from the abuse of others.
- On the other hand.
- Our culture imposes certain forms of behavior on us that we follow mechanically.
- Often without realizing what we are doing or why we do it.
- We simply react as expected from us.
- Without thinking about other options.
- Feeding and reinforcing stereotypes that we don’t like so much.
These are the most common false myths and beliefs about forgiveness. Thinking about these myths will help you forgive more sincerely and be more aware of what you’re doing and why.
Many people believe that they must first overcome pain and anger to forgive, as if they first need to feel better to forgive, but reality is the exact opposite.
Forgiveness is a choice we must make. If you expect boredom to go away, the process will be even more difficult, it is with the hot head that we have to decide, in this way the state of tension and boredom will pass sooner, because it will not let anger take over.
This is something that we teach children a lot and that many people continue to reproduce in their adult lives, but forgiveness is not a choice that can be imposed, but must be a free and conscious choice, even if it is a little late.
If you’re sorry, with the word, why should you?and you think you should? but don’t forgive from the bottom of your heart, anger and boredom will become negativity that will explode elsewhere. Take as much time as you need, but choose freely whether to forgive or not.
We people are human and humans make mistakes, and we make them over and over again, in fact, we are the only living beings who stumble twice on the same stone (at least that’s what they say).
Learning from mistakes is not easy, especially when we are not fully aware of this error, at the end of the day, not everyone understands things in the same way and in our behavior many factors come into play.
There are things you may be able to forgive once that can be very difficult to forgive a second time, but not all violations are so serious and their impact depends on the person who commits them, so it is necessary to consider each problem independently. and not generalize.
It is quite the opposite. If the other does not regret what he has done, the full weight of boredom and anger falls on you, it hurts more. However, if you forgive those who have made you suffer, you free yourself from the burden.
Many people use it to hurt others even more because they understand the power they have by not repenting, however, if you forgive them, disarms, take a valuable tool for their needs.
Many people think that forgiving is a way to tell others that what they have done is right or acceptable; in fact, many use this way of thinking to validate inappropriate or illegal behavior.
However, what you do when you forgive is send the message that the other person does not have enough power to affect you, that you are above that, thinking on this side, forgiveness allows us to be above the psychological manipulation that the other can exercise.