It would be unfair to say that a person is essentially negative, all human beings have some value and there is no person we can call disability or disability alone, when we talk about the characteristics of negative people what is questioned is the attitude, not the people themselves.
It should also be clarified that nothing in the human being is a pure state and that this does not happen continuously, especially on an emotional level, so that no person is entirely negative or positive, in each of us two attitudes coexist. The thing is, everyone decides to highlight one or the other posture.
“We are our own demon and we make this world our own hell. “- Oscar Wilde-
In this article we will try to expose the main characteristics identified in people with negative postures, being the main victim of these attitudes the person himself, so it is worth analyzing whether we are adopting some of these attitudes and recognizing that we could earn a much more if we change our position. To do this, let’s look at the five main traits of negative people.
There are many impossible things in life, but some people do not want to accept this fact, they do not accept that frustration is part of existence and that we do not always get what we want.
Maybe we wanted to be born into a millionaire family or grew up in an environment with a lot of understanding, otherwise there is nothing we can do to change the past and if we focus on nostalgia for everything that wasn’t, we can only fill ourselves with bitterness and pain.
The same is true when you look at impossible goals; for example, we strive to look young when we are older or try to get someone else to behave the way we think they should behave.
Impossible goals only bring frustration and therefore discomfort and suffering, states that feed a negative attitude.
Just as it is unwise to focus on impossible goals, it is also unwise to surrender when we are trying to achieve something and encounter a difficult obstacle. We must not forget that every important goal requires great effort and that much of the achievement is based on perseverance.
Often in life we are tempted to surrender, but this is not an option when faced with goals that can be achieved in objective terms, even if they involve overcoming many difficulties. Psychologist Hillary White says: “Abandoning makes you feel defeated. No matter how this ends, dealing with difficulties already increases confidence.
When we have not yet sufficiently strengthened our self-esteem and maturity, we will have a very sensitive ego, we will not endure shame and we are very afraid to look ridiculous, criticisms do not suit us either, even if they are true and destined to help us.
Taking things too seriously only increases a negative attitude toward you and people. It takes humility not to take this little social nonsense so seriously. Seeing ridicule or making mistakes only makes people who value these situations more than they really deserve.
We all complain at one time or another. The problem arises when the claim is adopted as a way of life, in such cases the vision becomes blurred and everything you see is negative, there are no other options or possibilities. The focus is on the misfortunes, suffering and disability of the individual.
It is no longer a question of manifesting a state of suffering, but of adopting a negative existential position in relation to the world; in fact, it is a strategy widely used by negative people to justify a lack of progress.
Discomfort becomes a permission not to progress, to avoid committing to goals that include overcoming.
Living compared to others is one of the greatest traits of negative people, implying a lack of autonomy and self-judgment.
In comparison, the individual analyzes and judges what he does solely on the basis of what others do. An unfair and frustrating experience that only leads to a constant posture of conflict.
The worst thing is that many of these comparisons have as their sole purpose to denigrate others as a way of exalting themselves, that is, the disasters that happen to others become a source of self-satisfaction because they leave others in a state of need or error. and themselves in a higher and privileged position.
As we can see, maintaining a negative position in the face of reality only leads us to a state of constant dissatisfaction that impedes progress and establishes positive relationships, a vicious circle that leads nowhere.
If you’ve noticed any of these negative traits of people in you, feel free to work for a change. Having a negative attitude doesn’t bring any profit, it just makes you get lost.