When was the last time you compared yourself to someone?Certainly not that long ago. We live in a society that invites us to compare ourselves to others, but not only, it also invites us to rely on external approval to feel good about what we do or decide, yet all this has been destroying our own self-esteem.
To love as one is does not mean giving up to improve, in fact it involves understanding and feeling that we have value now, in the present, above our potential, comparison in this regard can give us information, even motivation, but it becomes negative. when practiced very often, it becomes a source of permanent dissatisfaction or feeds envy.
“You must know how to love yourself, and not just that, every day a little more. -Night of letters-
It seems ironic that we always have our mouths open in front of people who have a strong personality, who are very original, who stand out because they do not hide or pretend to become what they are not, curiously we admire this quality in them. However, we do not realize that our own qualities are different and that only by applying them differently can we achieve the effect we desire. You can’t be natural like someone else.
Let us look at others as a source of inspiration. They can give us ideas, we can even imitate part of the way we walk and stop according to our own needs You are not like the others and it is positive!Stop hiding everything that makes you different out of fear, shame and insecurity and try to love yourself as you are.
No matter how many comparisons we make we are invited to suffer constantly, if we think about it we will never be able to become someone else, you have another life, you have other experiences and you are very different in many ways, although you pretend, your personality cannot be the same as that of others.
Stop seeing your frustrated desires, crashing into that wall that will never move. It’s hard because around us a lot of people compare us to others, but don’t do that!
When we internalize this, no long as we compare, we will not get what we want so much, we will go back to the previous point and start taking our first steps to love each other as we are, we are special, unique. Why do we want to lose all this?
Nobody’s perfect, and neither are we. However, sometimes we believe that we are mistakenly aware that others are perfect, when in fact they are not. Think about the times when he held back tears until he could have been alone, so he wouldn’t seem vulnerable. He thinks we’re fine, when we’re actually constantly collapsing and it’s going to be a lot harder to help us.
“The eye is always attracted to light, but the shadows have much more to say. -Gregory Maguire-
It is exactly the same that can happen to others that we see, because each person has its lights, but also its shadows, loving you as you are will teach you to accept yourself, not to blame you for being a perfect person, to allow you to make mistakes Loving oneself is liberating.
When you’re little you adopt the values of people closest to you, like your parents, yet they’re not yours even if you’ve adopted them as such, how do you see that?When they don’t agree with what you do with your life.
For example, you may not be punctual at all, but you have the value of punctuality. You may still be living with your parents at age 30, but you have a strong desire to be independent. When you feel that two opposing forces attract you, there are values in you that are not yours.
Doing this will allow you to assume your own values and get rid of those who don’t belong to you without feeling bad, because not all of us have the same values, then you’ll start doing what you want and not what others want you to do. You don’t have to be like anyone else, not even your family members. You’re different, remember.
If you don’t love yourself the way you are, can you love others?It’s a big mistake, just as we think we can love, appreciate or be honest with someone if we don’t accept it.
In order to offer something to others, we must first start with ourselves, so, for example, if we love each other as we are, we will be much more tolerant of who we are and think of others, something very positive that will be returned to us.
“The less we accept ourselves, the more we need the acceptance of others” – Alfredo Hoffman-
Do you want another reason to love yourself as you are?As you can see, it frees us from much suffering, suffering that we have not chosen and that we feed in one way or another. Treat us harshly, punish us severely, for our failures and omit the good habit of compensating for our own successes.
Sometimes it is difficult to take a new perspective, especially when our whole environment remains rooted in this vision that hurts so much, that has so shattered our own self-esteem, however, when we accept ourselves, we realize how strong we are and that there will be very few circumstances that can break our will. Loving yourself as one is a big step forward to feel free and full of well-being. What are you waiting for?