Is British novelist Arnold Bennett right to say that pessimism, when you get used to it, is as pleasant as optimism?Can it really be positive to be pessimistic?
The truth is that being pessimistic is nothing more than a kind of lived or unpleasant attitude, we are talking about a way of thinking that applies a filter to the perception of reality and the predictions of the person about it. that happens or can happen around you will be interpreted negatively. The person believes that he lives in the worst possible world, surrounded by the worst environment and with resources that, instead of facilitating his adaptation, make it difficult.
“Sadness is a gift from heaven, pessimism is a disease of the mind. “- Love Nerve-
Despite what one thinks, a pessimist is not necessarily a sad person, that is, not all of these individuals have this way of interpreting reality as a depressive symptom or as emotional pain.
In a pessimistic person the sadness is usually widespread, but it is not obligatory for the two to be together, however, it is true that grief usually appears, so the feeling maintained in the time that surrounds us an unfavourable scenario could lead us to despair and even helplessness, because in pessimistic logic it would not be worth fighting to improve or fight for progress or improvement.
However, although it is not worth being pessimistic, not everyone who shows this type of attitude does it in the same way, on the other hand, it is a way of thinking that can be applied to certain injustices or situations, but not life pessimistic person’s daily life.
A positive aspect of the pessimist is that he generally prefers to be told the truth rather than soften it with a lie. Far from “what the eyes don’t see, the heart doesn’t feel,” they prefer another version that says “what the eyes don’t see, the feet stumble. “
However, even if they are good at accepting uncomfortable truths, it is also true that they do not seek to objectively understand what is going on, they simply expect the worst and believe that everything is wrong and based on convenient lies. , it is as if something true, by force or by nature, is negative or normal, but not good.
A pessimistic attitude always focuses on the wrong things, so when something goes well, it doesn’t catch the eye, everything else is directly negative.
A pessimistic person almost never focuses on the good. Your focus will always be the wrong things. On the one hand, it can be positive because of its ability to report socially, for example, but always thinking about the negative ends up making us lose morale on a daily basis.
They are personalities who tend to protect themselves from frustration, never expect anything good from anyone or anything, in fact, assume that nothing will improve unless they work hard, and yet, probably nothing will be good.
Their pessimistic attitude, to some extent, protects these people from disappointment. They will rarely adjust expectations upwards, so reality will almost always surprise you positively. On the other hand, you don’t have to be pessimistic to use this strategy, because everyone, in an attempt to protect us, has already used it at some point.
Pessimistic people experience more pain. In addition to the real losses they face, they face the losses they anticipate, so in many cases they go through imaginary grieving processes, because loss, the worst case scenario they find themselves in, never occurs.
Pessimism is not well seen socially (let alone because positive psychology is so fashionable), so people who use this filter tend to hide it; on the other hand, it is often such an learned attitude, such an automatic filter, that the person uses. without realizing what he’s doing.
Continuously or over time, pessimism is a filter and attitude that we use frequently, good or bad, beneficial or harmful, this will have to be decided by all, what science says is that the content optimism seems to help us, especially to deal with problems, if only to align the phenomenon of self-fulfilling prophecy in our favor.
“The sun shines everywhere, but some see nothing but its shadows. “- Arthur helps-