Emotional comfort is always dangerous. This does not allow us to see beyond the simple, how comfortable we are, what we already know and conformism, so we often fall into the traps that have been prepared by the mirages of well-being in which we believe to live.
“Living alone in search of safety and comfort is living within the walls where he died?
? J. M. Fericgla?
Comfort and emotional conformity in love are the greatest enemies of relationships, in our relationships we often try to create a bubble of emotional stability that allows us to get used to it and look at life as if we were already halfway.
We have at our side a person who we love and who loves us; In the end, even if everything goes wrong, we’ll always have a place to take refuge.
However, the truth is that we tend to get confused. What this bubble gives us is not a sofa on which we can fall, but a breath of fresh air. When we spend time in a relationship, not necessarily much, we tend to set ourselves apart from our own goals and aspirations.
We stopped being the people we were, we changed, and that deteriorates us in the same way as in our relationship. We surrender physically and emotionally in a kind of emotional delirium that makes us think, unconsciously, of something like, “Well, I’ll take care of myself later. “
I’m sure he loves me the same way!If now, all of a sudden, your partner has disappeared from your life, would you feel good about yourself?Will you really always like it the way you used to, or have you been too carefree?Does it work for you every day?
Let us not deceive ourselves, uncomfortable emotions have a motive in our lives, sadness, anger, anxiety, worry, pain, disappointment, remorse, etc. , everyone, without exception, has something to tell us.
The thing is, we run away from them, we run the other way and we don’t let them explain themselves, can they become terrible monsters like depression, anger, guilt, anxiety?
Fleeing is an act of cowardice, but listening to what negative emotions have to say is very uncomfortable, so we don’t want to pay attention to it, we must abandon the right emotions, that do not interfere with the achievement of our goals, but reinforce them.
Everyone thinks; It’s inevitable. However, our thinking can be partial, distorted, biased, etc.
We usually choose the plots that we like, so as not to bother, not to exceed certain limits that end up being very rewarding. So there is a moment in each person’s life when we succumb, one way or another, at convenience, giving way to prejudice.
In this way, “we swallow everything that the media, friends, family or acquaintances tell us. We are adapting to this social norm of respect for standards and stop thinking for ourselves.
We then fall into intellectual laziness and narrow-mindedness, damaging reason, honesty, and the mental reach that we might enjoy if we tried to question ourselves and what they tell us.
Letting them decide for us is another of the great dangers of emotional comfort, as we discussed in the previous point, letting society decide for the individual is the most normal thing, as it is bad because someone stands out.
Since we do not want to face the desirability of having to fight for our interests or beliefs, we end up letting others think we will adapt to the norm, eroding our present and future decision-making capacity, as well as our physical and social capacity. emotional freedom.
Letting emotional wounds become cysts is another danger of emotional comfort, it is very common to think that we must leave the past in the past even if it still hurts, unfortunately, in this way, we cannot overcome the evil it has. it hurts.
This conditions our present and our future, because we let dirt accumulate and eliminate the brightness of our daily lives, so we stop meeting our emotional needs, let discomfort explode and drown us. This feeling is, for our souls, like putting a shoe on under our feet.
However, life is time and it is the only one that we will ever recover, no matter what we try and no matter how much we run, it is impossible not to have a single problem in the 365 days of the year.
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