Have you ever wondered if you’re in the right relationship with your current partner?I confess that this uncertainty has been close to my heart for several weeks, which has led me to ask questions such as: “Will this situation happen with more people?What are the signs of whether we are in the right relationship?
Most of us are aware that maintaining a relationship will not always be easy, but the question of whether we are in the right relationship or not is a point we rarely question.
- After feeling this uncertainty in my own skin.
- I began to investigate the signs that can tell us if we are in the right relationship.
- Its presence can allow us to open our eyes and / or increase our desire to continue growing with our current partner.
Every relationship is unique. Members are people with their own characteristics, unique and irreplaceable and, above all, with different tastes, I discovered a long time ago that the secret to living and growing with your loved one is to learn to understand, respect and know how to manage these differences. and preserve equality, making them forces for the relationship.
1. You are not afraid. The Achilles heel in any type of human relationship: fear, fear gives us a signal of security when we are in a relationship, because if we are right we should not feel fear coming from the other person, in this case it is normal to feel emotions opposed to fear, such as security, joy, and permanence.
In bad relationships the opposite happens: insecurity and fear invade us, being in a relationship in which you constantly doubt your partner, your own involvement in the relationship or your worth as a person means that you are part of a corrupt relationship or at least you need a lot of profound changes.
2. Authentic trust. This sign becomes the key pillar of good relationship: trust. And the feeling it generates when you fall between two people who love each other is indescribable. It must exist between the two people long before the start of the relationship, because to live an experience full of trust, it must be earned long before any solid loving commitment.
But if you find yourself in a situation where you’re constantly looking at your mobile phone, your messages or just suspicions in some way, the relationship between you two will hardly progress positively.
I once lived in a family environment like this and, believe me, there is no point in sharing your life with someone who generates that bitterness, the result of continued mistrust.
“Why have a relationship in which you suffer and live the opposite of love?” In asking me this question, I have not repeated this harmful emotional environment to this day. And I hit the wood in my heart.
3. She/she sacrifices herself for you. At this stage, I am not talking about an extreme or vital kind of sacrifice, but about this small sacrifice, day by day, of how to develop a negotiated plan of life, in which the needs of both can be met. We’re talking about habits and customs, between the two of us.
To love is to know how to share and give your best while waiting for the well-being of others, if you believe that there are no such details in your commitment, you are probably not in the right relationship.
4. Keep your own identity. In A Mind é Maravilhosa we share the ease with which emotional dependence can occur within a relationship, so it is a sign that you are in a bad relationship, sharing life and your heart with it does not mean that we have to lose. our identity.
A beautiful relationship arises from learning to maintain individuality and respect between the two members, without letting each lose their “soul”, stop practicing their free time, stop approaching their friends or family, if they respect their differences as human beings, I will welcome you to their correct relationship.
5. Even the clashes are positive. I tell you another secret of good relations: fights, even passionate ones, always keep an essential ingredient, mutual respect, if such confrontations are given, the end result will always be positive with good solutions for both.
However, if there are dramatic, negative and toxic discussions in your relationship, I would like to invite you to stop and reflect on whether to continue in this situation. Ask the big question “For what”. You probably live in a bad relationship where feelings don’t allow your wise reason to act.