Have you ever thought about the power of children to get everything they want?These little ones are constantly negotiating with us, and we cannot deny that they are often surprisingly effective.
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- A child can always teach an adult three things: to be happy for no reason.
- To always be busy with something.
- And to know how to demand with all his strength what he wants.
Paulo Coelho
The child asks, the adult assumes. When a child answers a phone call, it only stops when they know the reason for the call. Of course, meet any answer that seems reasonable at the time, but keep asking until you’re satisfied.
In addition, while the child constantly questions the stranger, the adult pretends to know for fear of seeming incompetent.
They constantly ask what they want. The child knows that the more he asks for something, the more likely he or she is to get what he wants; Therefore, if you want a video game, taking it to the park and buying an ice cream won’t stop you from ordering it.
Adults, on the other hand, remain silent and do not ask, it seems that we expect others to be able to read our minds, and when someone finally gets what we want, we always try to deny it categorically.
If we do not express our wishes, we will hardly get what we want. Surprisingly, children are able to use it because they have no reservations in exposing their wishes to anyone.
For children, isn’t this the beginning of the negotiation; for the adult, the “no” that’s the end. For the adult and the child the worst that can be said is a ‘yes’ because it is the end of the negotiation, the ‘yes’, immediately, does not give us anything and can even frustrate us, since trading is a fun trading game.
A child may receive no for an answer hundreds of times every day, but never drop the case after the first negative. Children push us to the limit: they insist, insist and insist. Why? Because it works. So they get little by little the cake they wanted and that we initially refused to give.
How far is it?I’m bored, are we still here?
Of course, this seems familiar to all of us. The child persists, the adult does not, contrary to what you would expect, know that if they do not get something, they have to ask for it at another time, or ask for something similar that can be even more rewarding.
This is perfectly normal, and if the answer doesn’t satisfy the little ones, they’ll ask, “Why is it?”Why not? until they get a satisfactory answer.
The child exchanges good behavior for what he wants, but rarely gives up what he wants. In their negotiation, they also make others win something. In the end, is this trading game that easy?. That many of us also learned and fun as children.