Today, differences in marriage are the most common problems in psychologists’ offices, infidelity, jealousy, emotional dependence and difficult coexistence end the relationship.
If we look back, we’ll see it hasn’t happened in a few years. In the past, despite the difficulties, marriage lasted a lifetime. This was because the woman depended almost entirely on the man; he looked after the house, the kids and didn’t work outside.
- Fortunately.
- Things are very different today.
- The problem is that this has led many couples to end their relationships.
- And the psychological problems arising from this rupture are very common.
According to some studies, today the marriage does not last more than ten years, due to daily rushes and lack of communication.
Although there is no perfect wedding, we give you some tips that can help you in this task.
If you want a lasting marriage, be tolerant of your partner, sometimes we are very demanding, as if we were the owners, in reality no one owns anyone
Keep in mind that we are human and that we make many mistakes, try to be understanding and empathetic with your partner, don’t demand that it be the way you want it to be.
That is not to say that we cannot suggest that he behaves differently; but there’s a big difference between suggesting and asking. Dialogue is essential to make everything better, and for the other to agree to change what we don’t like.
No one likes to be pressured, but if we are convinced that change is necessary, we can change our point of view.
The past is no longer, so there is no point in suffering for something that has already happened, if we cannot forget what happened, we will only have pain and suffering.
If your partner has been unfaithful to you and you have forgiven him, forget about him, remember that he made a mistake, but you chose to forgive, so there is no need to go back to the past, forget it and move on.
We often forget that we choose this person to love and live together for the rest of our lives, get carried away by impulses, negative emotions and end up arguing and even offending each other.
Remember that insults can offend your loved one and, if they happen regularly, they can end your marriage.
Don’t yell, don’t be disrespectful; Peaceful and loving dialogue can harmonize their relationship.
Hair in the shower drain, open toothpaste or messy closet won’t become a big problem if we’re in a good mood.
We often dramatize unimportant problems and coexistence can become unbearable.
It’s true that it can be awkward to handle the lid lifted from the toilet, but don’t let it end with a serious discussion.
It’s not worth it! There are many other things that each of you does well, remember the beginning of the article: do not ask, suggest, after all, you have chosen your partner yourself.
The coexistence in marriage can be very fun and pleasant, surprise your partner with something that you know that he loves and that will make you happy, does not have to be on a special date, the important thing is to have a good dinner, to take him to see a show of the band that loves him most, even if it is not his favorite, etc.
Sometimes we can give a little bit and participate in activities that our partner likes, we can even experiment. Maybe we too will start to like it?
On the other hand, we should not depend on our partner to do what we love, if we like different things, we can have fun separately.
Building a good marriage is easy and at the same time difficult. We often get carried away by negative feelings and lose respect, honesty and empathy. Practice these five tips daily and your marriage will evolve positively.