We are used to giving our children love, affection and education based on knowledge and guidance, but it is very important that they receive knowledge about the world that surrounds them and also about this more private universe, this dimension of feelings, emotions and expressions of the body itself, where love and sex are fundamental for the formation of the person. together and happy. Sex education is also a way of enjoying life, where it is essential to know how to understand, analyze and take care of our body and our relationships.
As parents, counselors or teachers, we know that educating adolescent girls about sexuality has several goals, the main ones are to avoid unwanted pregnancies, prevent disease and train our young people with positive values and feelings about sex, an expression that involves understanding two people, which involves understanding and respect, to educate our adolescents on this topic many times it is necessary to review and value our own ideas , so that they can be approached in a simple and accessible way, where there are no barriers, but trust. I get it?
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- La sex education should not be initiated exclusively at the age of 11 or 12.
- That is.
- At the age when.
- For example.
- The first rules appear.
- When we see that our young people begin to open up to the world and demand more independence.
- Sex education requires trust in our children.
- Freedom for them to express themselves.
- Ask or comment.
- Trust must begin to be gained from a young age.
- Through a style of democratic education.
- In which topics are always comfortable.
- Where the rules are in dialogue.
- Where they are not limited to imposing and promoting communication and listening.
- Sexuality should not be taboo in the family or a forbidden word.
- If that is the case.
- We may have problems with our youth; we will never have your trust and we will always be avoided.
2. Net underestimates the feelings of teenagers. Sometimes our teens suffer from romantic frustrations, get younger and earlier, and we may have 11- or 12-year-olds who already know what it’s like to fall in love and be rejected or abandoned, the last thing we need to do is minimize this experience and make comments as if nothing, it is. We should never make these mistakes, because your feelings are out of your skin and your first experiences are never forgotten, they are very important. We must take care of them and support them at all times, by giving them an understanding without prejudice, by giving them strategies and supporting them.
Teenagers go through several stages before starting sex: first, they go through a period of introspection to their own insides, in search of their own identity, their feelings, their self-image, their sexual identity, a process in which they gradually open up to their friends, classmates, etc. As parents, we must be aware of their relationships and needs; we must support them in the face of every doubt and every question. Try, as much as possible, not to let the teen lock the teen all day in his room, trapped on the computer or on social media. day to talk and enjoy everyday life, until comments appear about your friends, your relationships. . . so that we can feel its maturity.
4. Educating friendship and love is fundamental to the proper development of sexuality. It is always recommended to associate love and affection with sex, with an expression of feelings, where there is understanding and respect. Contraceptives should be introduced to the world. naturally, and the first sexual relationship usually occurs between the age of 14 and 17, so it is advisable to offer a contraceptive naturally, explaining the proper functioning and transmitting the confidence so that doubts arise. In addition, experts recommend sharing personal information experiences of our adolescence, to make them understand that doubts are always normal and even necessary.
5. It should be noted that schools do not offer all the information or all the training, parents are also indispensable. It is also important to consider that “teens don’t know everything”; Having access to the Internet will not solve any of your doubts. Young people need support and confidence to ask questions. Children receive a lot of information from many channels: television, friends, social networks. But it should be remembered that 70% of this information is not useful.
The secret to true protection, health and understanding of sexuality is knowledge itself, and we can facilitate it if we have the trust of our children.