Sometimes we think that having a couple’s life requires spending most of our time with the other person, however, there are many other ways to design a relationship, sometimes maintaining independence in the relationship can be the key to a healthy and lasting relationship.
Living too attached to the other person can be harmful. If we act this way, at some point we may feel saturated, drowned and sometimes without new plans.
- Maintaining a certain independence in the relationship allows us to enjoy time for ourselves.
- A space of reflection and calm.
- Both personally and professionally.
On the other hand, it is also important to learn to control our ego so that it does not affect the sentimental relationship and thus avoid putting our ambitions and desires before those of the other person.
This can be more difficult if we share it with our partner all the time, as he may feel compelled to participate in activities that he does not like or for which we have requested at some point.
Often, the lack of independence in the relationship correlates with a situation of excessive dependence.
If we do not know how to cultivate and maintain a certain independence, we can come to believe that we do nothing without the other person, thus keeping us in a dangerous comfort zone.
Therefore, to grow on a personal level and know how to value a sentimental relationship, it is important to dedicate time to yourself, to go out with friends or to do other projects, this is only possible from a sufficient degree of interdependence. in the relationship.
Independence in the relationship will allow us to learn that we can be well and be happy both as a couple and individually.
In short, independence in the relationship allows us to enjoy life while teaching us to value the time we spend with the other person, it also helps us deal with jealousy and a sense of belonging.
For a healthier relationship, here are some tips for maintaining a good degree of independence:
It is a good idea to do a small examination of conscience to learn to love and value yourself and, by extension, to appreciate your partner more. It will also allow us to build healthier relationships with our friends and family.
On the other hand, we must be aware of everything that sets us apart from others, such as our tastes, opinions or leisure.
Valuing all the characteristics that define our personality will help us to understand that it is not necessary to adapt everything around us to our preferences.
Another important aspect is talking to the couple about the need for space and independence.
So, we can make it clear to the other person that spending time apart is actually a positive thing for the relationship and that there is nothing wrong with that, because growing up on an individual level will also positively influence the romantic relationship.
When we spend time without being with the other person it is important to maintain sincere communication, in this way it will be easier to avoid any misunderstandings, doubts or even some difficulties related to jealousy.
This is not to say that we have to explain to our partner everything we do separately at all times, but that we should not try to hide important things or have secrets that can compromise the relationship.
Valuing our personal space can be very positive for the relationship and for ourselves, walking, watching a movie, reading, doing sports or doing any other activity you like is important because it contributes to our well-being.
If we don’t, we’ll miss him at some point and start to feel some discomfort.
In addition, these small pleasures will allow us to build an individual space in which we will feel refugees, in addition to being calm and relaxed.
Boundaries protect our personal space. It is therefore essential to specify what behaviors of the other person seem negative, abusive or invasive to us. Similarly, we must respect the other person’s tastes, in addition to their values, beliefs, and feelings.
As we see, time to oneself is essential throughout life, ultimately allowing us to grow personally and professionally, and to cultivate a rich and prosperous social life.