Patience is usually not the strength of today’s parents, the stress we encounter, the competitiveness of the environment, the rushes, the high expectations they put on us and that we put in our children and the uncertainty about what will happen in the future makes us shudder.
Add to that the fact that children are by definition infuriating, are we facing a difficult situation to control? But not impossible. Children can become difficult, but it is in their nature to do so. On the other hand, letting go and losing control is a parenting thing.
- Maintaining control is the key to being more patient parents.
- Control.
- Including self-control.
- Helps set boundaries and manage circumstances.
- Understand them.
- And make smarter decisions.
It’s hard, we won’t fool anyone. Children challenge their parents more intensely as they try to wage a battle of patience, in a struggle to see who can do more. And if you lose control, you lose the game. In your hand is the opportunity to get your position on the board. .
When you’re tired you need time to recharge your batteries, in this situation you can’t make healthy, intelligent and rational decisions, any strong emotion will block your emotional thinking.
So don’t make decisions when you’re tired and don’t get carried away. Your kids need to know they’re tired and need a moment for them. You’re not trying to be a father right now either. check school work or try to control anything. Wait for more rest.
If the situation gets out of hand with your kids and you go crazy, count to ten and take a deep breath. Restart? Your mind then you can’t go on. You can also ask your child for a time with which everyone backs aside before continuing. You need to calm down, you need to calm down.
Take a deep breath and exhale slowly and consciously. Do it several times, counting up to ten. This breathing will help you calm down. Probably and naturally, you can sigh due to prolonged exhalation, and this is a natural way to help us eliminate stress.
Sometimes parents demand a lot and want to be the perfect parents, this puts pressure on them and when they see that they have failed they become even more exasperated, they get angry at themselves for not being as they would like or for not knowing how to handle the situation.
But he’s human. If you recognize their limitations, you’ll also find a way to overcome them, which will also apply to your relationship with your children. Be more patient with yourself to be more patient with them.
Children don’t have the reasoning and self-control skills that adults possess, and you know it. Acting like a child doesn’t bring you closer to the way you understand things, nor does it make you understand.
Assume your adult role, your role as a parent, redefine your conception of discipline. Children are irrational, but you have to do the opposite. And if you can’t, learn how to do it.
Many parents are used to losing their minds because they can’t talk any other way, so practice. Imagine moments, get in a situation, analyze past moments and think about how you could have done things differently.
Think about what triggers your loss of control and don’t consider losing patience as an option. Instead, imagine how you would progress in the situation while maintaining control and calm. You need to train your brain to trigger reactions that interest you.