“Violence is the last refuge of the incompetent. ” These wise words are from the famous writer Isaac Asimov. Unfortunately, many of these incompetents have acquired enormous ability to launch less notorious and therefore very dangerous verbal attacks.
On the other hand, if there is an area in which verbal abuse is very dangerous, it is in the life of a couple, sometimes love makes us justify totally unjustified attitudes and words, however, in some cases, they are so imperceptible or so common that we don’t. not even identify them. We will delve into that.
- Deciphering the other person’s intentions in a relationship is not easy.
- In fact.
- No matter how sure we are.
- There will always be a possibility that we may be wrong because no one can firmly say what the other person thinks.
- There will be many verbal aggressions hidden in words and gestures that do not look like an aggression at first sight.
- We’ll explain some of them below.
It is not uncommon for one party to ridicule the other member of the relationship by criticizing his family or origin, especially if the person comes from modest rural areas or if his parents have little financial resources, however, criticisms and complaints are not unique to them. Profiles
“Poverty is the worst form of violence. -Mahatma Gandhi-
This type of aggression can be very offensive. Without justification or justification, this can lead to creating a stigma that can be used in a timely manner and appear during a moment of anger, in a social gathering or at very inappropriate times.
Talking about other people’s bodily attractions should not be an assault in itself, however, when repeated over time, in a way that seeks to undermine the couple’s self-esteem, it becomes a significant verbal assault.
Finding other attractive people is not the problem, but talking about it all the time and comparing your partner with others is, which can even lead to complexes and inferiority for the treatment received.
We often make a verbal portrait of our partner in the form of humor and caricature. Sometimes we act as if we could read the other person’s mind, expressing that we know him better than he does.
What happens is that this type of behavior can be repeated so many times in time that it can become ridiculous, so would it end up affecting the couple so much that their self-esteem would be reduced to the point where the person would confuse their truth?me, as I’m expressing.
Emotional blackmail is another verbal assault that often goes unnoticed, but causes great harm because of it, this way of communicating is very subtle, because the person who exercises it makes the other believe that it is he who does everything to make the relationship work. and succeed.
Thus, all emotional blackmail speeches tend to aim to demonstrate the manipulator’s effort to make everything work and work, so the victim ends up believing that he is responsible for what happened and that, if it were not for his partner, everything would be a real disaster.
Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse that takes its name from a famous film, in this case, verbal aggression aims to make the couple doubt their own mental abilities, perception and memory.
Through lying and manipulation, a huge psychological malaise is created in the other person, fostering their insecurity and devaluation.
However, it is very difficult to identify this situation. Therefore, psychologists recommend hearing a third opinion from someone outside the relationship, otherwise it can cause very serious problems.
“Too much work and too much blood would be avoided if we opened our hearts. -Chief Joseph-
Thus, while this type of verbal aggression may seem very obvious and well known, it is not always easy to recognize, especially if we are the target, so we must pay attention to our relationships and, above all, to the way we communicate. in order to prevent situations of discomfort, conflict or rupture from proper communication.