Because the idealized woman, white, seductive but not prostitute, happily married but not in the shade, who works but without much success not to suffocate her man, skinny but not obsessed with food, who seems indefinitely young but not disfigured by plastic surgery. , (?) this happy white woman who puts us before our eyes, the one we should strive to show off, I’ve never found her anywhere, it might not even exist. ?
Virginie Despentes
- In female psychology.
- The sense of balance is always very present.
- Do we keep trying?Balance our actions to better suit others and ourselves.
But in today’s society, this ideal of “to its right hand,” to which the controversial writer Virginia Despentes refers, seems increasingly an imposition than an innocent recommendation.
The woman, in her role as an affective mother, friend or companion, tries to maintain balance and sanity at all times. Can this effort sometimes become pathological, as it suffocates the instincts or abilities that need to explode?about them to achieve their realization.
As the phrase “The measure of love is to love without measure” says, a woman’s psychology and behavior should not be so restricted. Do we accept failures, mistakes, desires? Even if they are not adequate in relation to what society imposes.
Some women have overcome their fear, what will others say?And they have dared to be themselves, whether at work or in romantic relationships, and not only have they not generated rejection from the general public, but have left their undeniable mark on history. of our world.
As Oscar Wilde said, “Be yourself, are the other positions occupied?”
Let’s look at some examples of women who have decided to take their jobs:
This French philosopher of astonishing intellectual capacity, author of the most translated book in the world, “The Second Sex”, is the most representative icon of the new feminism that took place in the mid-20th century.
It strengthened women’s social and civil rights, challenged their prosperous and conservative family environment, and quickly became economically independent in bohemian and artistic Paris at the time. He lived with a man but never married, had an intellectual and romantic relationship with Sartre throughout his life. he lived and traveled when and how he wanted to, but always without leaving aside his strong intellectual activity, marked as one of those of history.
This painter known around the world for her heartbreaking autobiographical images was not what was expected of a girl in her condition and age.
Frida quickly began to dress as a man or in very comfortable clothes, always with her inevitable enigmatic air, became interested in politics and literature from an early age, and due to a terrible bus accident that fractured her spine into three parts, her life changed radically. .
Although he was severely psychologically and physically affected for life, he did not resign himself to abandoning the art that flooded his mind and began painting self-portraits prostrate on his bed.
He had a passionate and very unstable relationship with the painter Diego Rivera, in addition to his novels with intellectuals (men and women) of the time who were well known.
She could not be a mother; All her attempts to get pregnant resulted in miscarriages because her reproductive system was severely damaged by the accident. His life and work, full of suffering and anger, now fill museums and murals around the world.
“I’m poor, black. It could be ugly. But, for God’s sake, I’m here. I am here!?
This unforgettable phrase from the film “The Purple Color” could well be a reflection of the story of today’s superpower Oprah Winfrey, the undisputed leader of American television who outperforms any kind of audience in her appearances.
With a shocking childhood, in which she has been the victim of repeated abuse and abominable violence, this woman is a perfect example that every human being can rise from the ashes and build the story she wants for herself.
? Looking for a job as an actress. Mother of three children: 10, 11 and 15 years. ?Thirty years of film experience. Always able to move and more affable than rumors say. You want a steady job in Hollywood (you’ve been on Broadway). Bette Davis, with Martin Baum G. A. G. References on demand?
This ad would be nothing special if it hadn’t been published in a newspaper where many now consider the greatest actress of all time, Bette Davis.
In a world full of facades and false fortunes, he never had a qualms about stripping away false appearances and struggling to achieve his goal: to work in the world of cinema for the rest of his life.
Criticized to the point of exhaustion, betrayed by her daughter and with a love story full of rumors and scandals, she has always remained faithful to herself and her love of cinema, a cinema that was forever etched in our minds by her enigmatic and unforgettable eyes. .
What good woman would aspire in the 19th century to have more than a good reputation, a good marriage and a good education for her children?
For nothing less than her, who not only fulfilled this destiny that has already been assigned to her, but added to her destination two Nobel Prizes in Physics and Chemistry, as well as being the first professor at the University of Paris.
She is no longer perfect to be herself in its entirety and become a legend.
Brave women like them around us. They may not have a name in history, but they will contribute to it by leaving their character, passions and ambitions far beyond what people expected of them: “Being perfect women. “