Today, there is access to various education guides and methods, but the truth is that parents seem increasingly lost in how to educate their children. For what?
I believe, from my experience as a psychologist for more than 28 years, that our overprotection of our children prevents us from putting into practice the education information to which we have access.
- Parents and educators can become helicopters: they are above children all day.
- Which does not allow healthy development.
- As children need to discover and experiment for themselves.
- Being under the supervision of their parents does not facilitate it.
Moreover, it should not be forgotten that parents and educators also convey their fears and weaknesses, our children are a faithful reflection of us.
It is true that the current reality is a little more complex, even if the essential remains the same, but with more technology.
I believe that there is little naturalness and common sense, on the one hand we do not want to be wrong and we want everything to be perfect in terms of the education of our sons and daughters, on the other hand we want them too to be perfect However, this is counterproductive and only favors the opposite.
It is true that we must educate in the best possible way, but we must not forget that sometimes we will be wrong and so will our children. Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn?
It may all have to do with the urge to want to control everything so that things go the way we would like, but life is mostly uncertain. And a lot of things are out of our control.
The basic and basic elements for healthy education would be
As parents and educators, we pass on our style and education to values in everyday life with our children.
While we know that we will not be the only influence on their future behavior, we must keep in mind that with our education we will lead them into life.
We say more with what we do than with what we say we have to do, so we need to be more consistent with what we express verbally and what we finally do, that’s what I’m talking about in my Book Guide for Parents in Problem.
As a psychologist I can say that “the apple never falls away from the tree,” so it’s important to make sure your kids set a good example and take care of themselves.
When we neglect and don’t take care of ourselves, what usually happens is that we end up suffering from burnout syndrome, the constant concern to care for our children ends up becoming a heavy burden.
What is happening is that, as we said earlier, if we do not take care of ourselves, we will not take care of them, worse, we will send our children the message that it is not important to take care of oneself. in adulthood, they will reproduce this same behavior and therefore will not take care of themselves.
Our behavior must reflect the values we want to convey, otherwise we will not convey anything, everything will be in words. Therefore, it is essential to be motivated and aware of our responsibility for the future well-being of our children.
Being a mother and father is beautiful, but it is not easy, let us take care to feel good and pass the keys that help them to have greater well-being, we must not forget that the word convinces, but the example is dragged. ?