It is true that many of our decisions generally raise questions and sometimes doubts on the part of those around us, we will always be with people who have something to say and who judge our attitudes and our way of acting in life as good or bad.
David William, a psychologist and blogger, believes, after several social studies, that we should not and are not obliged to explain ourselves and justify ourselves, even though many have received an education in which we cannot be justified we can make him feel. as if we had failed.
“If you don’t have inner freedom, what other freedom do you expect to have?
-Arturo Graf-
Then we’ll tell you when you don’t need to justify yourself, even if your beliefs and education say otherwise. Keep in mind that the only person you need to respond to is yourself, no matter how many others are trying to justify it.
Each of us is unique and irreplaceable. That’s why we can find people on our existential journey who don’t agree with our tastes or attitudes in our own lives, you have your own idea and you know what you need to do to live well and be fair to yourself or people. around you.
We have different dreams, goals and desires, learning, empathy and respect are fundamental when it comes to not judging something as sacred as our vital priorities, you decide for yourself and you have the power to choose, that’s why you don’t. you have to justify yourself to anyone when you do or don’t do certain actions.
You’re free to feel your own emotions. So if you don’t feel guilty about something others think you’ve done, don’t put on a mask that your body will, over time, blame you for no longer being yourself. No matter what others think, it’s yours. decision and will change when you feel the need.
If, in fact, you feel that there is no need to ask for forgiveness, why do so, why do others demand it?Don’t let others tell you how to feel and what to do, respect yourself and, above all, be true to yourself.
Is it true that although we are mature and emotionally intelligent, it is very difficult to say?to many appointments or meetings, not wanting to go to certain events just because we like to be alone. We are afraid to seem presumptuous, arrogant and even antisocial.
But we do not realize the importance of taking time for oneself, several times, and allowing this disconnection offered by silence and relaxation. The desire to spend time alone with oneself is actually normal behavior and necessary for healthy emotional well-being. in your daily life.
Don’t worry about explaining the time you spend alone and maintain this healthy habit that makes you so good, to the right extent, you decide what to spend your time with and how, the fact that others don’t understand doesn’t make a mandatory explanation.
As I mentioned in previous points, empathy implies respect and acceptance of those who may be at odds with the way you think, but the opposite also happens. Human beings share emotions, experiences, experiences and beliefs. Anything that transforms us and makes us “ourselves”.
I encourage you to be transparent and do not pretend to agree, sincerity is fundamental to enjoying a healthy relationship: let them know, respectfully, that you do not think the same thing, and if you do not want to say why, there is no reason to do so.
We have come into this world with the right to freedom, to feel free to make decisions that we believe are ideal and healthy for us and, therefore, for the people we love, they say that the most prosperous people are the ones who master the art of rejecting what, by themselves, is not a priority, or simply does not want to do.
It’s important to thank and be grateful, but don’t be afraid to say “no” if you wish. Self-respect is fundamental and, by rejecting something you don’t want, it is validated as a unique person and an extraordinary human being. It helps us set our own limits and makes us respect.
A few days ago, during one of my sessions with a client, I began working on eternal duality pleasure versus work, we live in a system that educates us according to the rule that work is only responsibility and headaches. , we cannot enjoy or feel alive during the working day, and we choose to think so because we think it is fair or because we are afraid of what people can say.
But I’d ask you, because that’s how you think? If you could choose how to think, what would you really like to do?You don’t have to explain to the people around you why you decided to dedicate your life to one profession or another.
Remember that you have your own life; Accept criticism and learn from them. Never feel bad about what you think is best for you.
Doing what you love makes you what you really are, gives you wings to play the best version of yourself. If in doubt, use the elegant phrase: “Don’t be offended, but that’s not your problem. “They have the power to do that or not in their lives; The same.