Expressing emotions with words is, in itself, a healing exercise, sometimes there is no technique that directly facilitates a change of mood, however, it is true that often expressing one’s emotions can be healthy and liberating.
It might sound easy. In my personal and professional experience, I have found that with custom, a slope becomes less steep, it is largely social and cultural conditions that prevent us from diving or opening up, they also influence fear, shame, anticipation of other thoughts, etc. So, for some reason, or for a mix of them, the truth is that we often silence what we want to shout.
- “Feelings and emotions are the universal language to be honored.
- Are they the true expression of who we are? -Judith Wright-.
It will never be inappropriate to express one’s emotions, even if tradition and common sense have defended the opposite idea for many centuries; in this sense, the weakening of this tradition makes new generations more easily expressed, but it also means that we will have to unlearn something we learn and assimilate.
Expressing your emotions is a liberating act
We started to feel it from children, when we were babies we laughed or cried to express ourselves, gradually opened the range of emotions: anger, fear, guilt, joy, sadness, love, etc. : if emotions are so true, why do we suppress them or keep them consuming so much energy?
We talked earlier about the social limitations that limit us. Like, for example, phrases like “Don’t you cry because you think you’re weak?”, “A girl as beautiful as you shouldn’t cry”; “Shouldn’t a lady behave like that?” “Men are not afraid. “
It’s the stamina or suppression of an emotion that causes the pain?. – Frederick Dodson-
If during our childhood we did not have an environment that favored our emotional development (it may be directly, but it is also effective to have good role models), it is normal to end up denting our emotional world. emotional education, is, in theory, an intelligent solution. The child or teen says, “I’m not going to dive into an area I don’t know. “
However, what may in principle be a solution to avoid major problems, over time becomes counterproductive, biology seems to tell us that above thinking beings we are emotional beings, so how can it be good to abolish an intrinsic part of our nature, which, by the way, we like or not, will continue to influence us?
Knowing how to properly express your emotions will lead to positive changes in different areas, here are a series of tips to improve the way you manage your emotions and therefore your emotional intelligence:
By expressing emotions, we obtain a controlled release of energy. The word catharsis means exactly purification. In this case, as written in Aristotle’s Poetics, it is an emotional, bodily, mental and spiritual cleansing.
Accumulating these negative emotions is a drag that, in the end, makes you feel anger, bitterness and even desire for revenge. Sooner or later it will definitely affect our mental and physical health.
Freeing ourselves from negative burdens offers the opportunity to rid ourselves of evil and find inner peace, helps us to settle in a state of mental and spiritual tranquility, in which we know and understand what we lived without suffering. resilience (ability to strengthen in adversity).
Moreover, inner peace underlies the feeling of happiness and fullness, this is possible because we are sincere with ourselves and express our emotions correctly.
Achieving inner peace is one of the conditions for approaching the sense of emotional well-being that we have all felt, a state in which we seem to conform to the frequency of the world, a perspective from which we can identify a command we like.
“The more open we are to our own feelings, the better we can read other people’s feelings” – Daniel Goleman-
By expressing our emotions with confidence we free ourselves from dependence on the opinions of others, recognize how you feel, manage it properly and express yourself allows you to defend your rights, set limits by approaching others with emotion, etc. respect yourself and protect yourself from the abuse and abuse or toxicity of others.
When we achieve purification and self-respect through emotions, we can say that we take control of our emotional life.
When we are in balance with ourselves, with our desires and with our personal emotions, we feel coherent, achieving it gives us power over life and its constant changes, that is, it allows us to move forward and grow.
In addition to saving our physical and emotional health, the proper expression of our emotions improves our relationship with others, allowing us to build healthier relationships based on honesty, trust and respect.
When we show ourselves who we are, without fear of our emotions, we project a more authentic personality, something that can increase the confidence we transmit (credibility) to people.
As we have seen, expressiveness is a gateway to possibilities, the two most important are socially related: on the one hand, it allows us to better manage our emotional energy and, on the other hand, allows us to establish relationships of trust where intimacy and complicity become possible.
Are you ready to express your emotions?