Feelings are more elaborate realities than emotions, they include them, but they also have a rational component, as well as a longer duration and deeper roots, so sentimental maturity can be defined as an emotional sediment derived from experience and emotional intelligence.
Sentimental maturity is never total, but when a certain level is reached, it becomes a relatively stable characteristic of personality, more so, it is the result of personal work and is therefore not very sensitive to the fluctuation of events.
- “Maturity is the ability to reap rewards without apologizing or complaining when things aren’t going well.
- “Jim Rohn.
As with other psychological realities, sentimental maturity is not so much a concept, or a discourse, as the real result of a practice manifested in one’s own practice, so it is achieved through different skills, attitudes and behaviors. :
Self-care is the ability to objectively identify the characteristics that define us, it also means having developed the capacity for self-preservation, the ability to review our actions and draw conclusions from them.
Self-awareness also allows us to predict our reactions to different situations, including our inclinations and upsets, influences the ease of understanding our actions and identifying our motivations.
One of the characteristics of sentimental maturity is the search for stability, which should not be confused with the need to create comfort zones to settle or with the desire to stand still and stop moving forward.
The pursuit of stability refers to the need to continue our actions and to link them to each other, it is an opposition to dispersion. You can be a backpacker and stay stable in this lifestyle, the real instability lies in the repetition of cycles in which something starts and never ends.
It is the ability to adapt to the facts, to appreciate them as they are, minimizing the mediation of subjectivity, that is, always try to see the world as it is, not as we wish or fear.
Realism leads to sentimental maturity and this, in turn, reinforces realism and adaptation, two dimensions that feed. Being realistic doesn’t mean sorry for dreaming or expectations, it’s more about how to differentiate what’s going on within us from what’s going on outside.
Another aspect in which sentimental maturity is reflected is the ability to explore the different dimensions that make up our life: body, mind, creation, thought, fullness, suffering, etc.
We often limit ourselves to our professional, emotional or family experiences. We may also have given way to suffering or pleasure alone, trying to avoid everything else. A full life encompasses the different dimensions of being.
When sentimental maturity is reached, it is understood that ups and downs are an inherent fact of life. May all situations, however stable, include mistakes and successes, reasons for sadness and joy, efficiency and limitation.
What we learn above all is that a bad time does not mean that everything will go wrong, and that a good time does not mean that everything will always be good, it is understood that all this is part of life and worth living. her, without escape or escape.
Self-know-how and realism lead to a condition that is part of sentimental maturity: coherence, that is, you can do whatever you want, assuming the responsibilities that this entails.
Therefore, there is a fundamental coherence between the objectives achieved in the commitments, the willingness to achieve them and the desire to do so, so there is no place to give up the life you lead or the past, we are simply living the way we want to live, assuming the cost.
Self-regulation is about the ability to shape reactions and actions by adapting them to context and objectives, i. e. ensuring that the intensity of emotions or reactions does not become an obstacle to oneself.
Self-regulation is not repression. It’s not about “holding” or neglecting. The idea is how to express how you feel, so that understanding is understood and promoted, not conflict.
The human being reaches full maturity in many ways, given these dimensions where we will always have a way to go, what we can do is work to get closer and closer to a state of balance, if we cultivate it our life will be more complete.