Today we want to share some curiosities about anxiety, there is no doubt that we are in the age of this emotional state that meanders through our stomachs, knots our throats and becomes mental concerns.
Sometimes it seems confidential and, as soon as it arrives, it leaves; However, in many others, it stays with us longer than we would like, in fact, if you get carried away by your ability to anticipate, imagine and count, you risk getting caught up in scary scenarios. There’s a reason to say that having anxiety is being sick in the future.
- Although there is a lot of talk about anxiety today.
- Some aspects and data are not so well known Are you ready to know them?Let’s go a little further on this.
“You were born to be free, do not be a slave to anything or anyone else. Don’t you let anxiety flood your life? -Bernardo Stamateas-
Our brain hates uncertainty, that feeling of not knowing what’s going to happen and that feeling of being out of control, so when we go through an unknown situation, thousands and thousands of worries begin to wander in our minds, while the amygdala, an almond -brain structure in the form of characterized by being the bank of our emotional memory, oversees everything that happens.
If it detects a danger situation, it immediately activates the warning signal, while releasing hormones into the bloodstream, such as cortisol and dopamine, to fight for our survival so that we can anticipate what will happen; However, when this happens, there is no turning back, because the functioning of our rational brain is nullified.
As we can see, although the intention of the amygdala is positive, its operating system has some primitive characteristics, so we become more instinctive and produce more inaccurate responses.
The concern is human. In fact, we are programmed for this, to anticipate what can happen and to be able to think of alternative plans to survive.
However, it is not the same to do this from time to time and on an ongoing basis, in fact, a study from Pennsylvania State University indicates that, on average, 91% of the concerns we have do not occur.
This had already been predicted by the American author Earl Nightingale, when he said that 40% of our concerns would never happen, that 30% would be related to the past, and therefore concern about it would change nothing, that 12% are useless concerns about our health, and that 10% are small and almost meaningless or disconnected. When doing the calculations, there would only be 8% of concerns that we should pay attention to.
We can use this information to reflect: from everything we think, imagine and fear will happen, fiction is one of the great protagonists, we can do the test.
For example, you may wonder what worries you most and which predicted events scare you the most, and a week or a month later, check what actually happened. You’ll be surprised.
There are two types of anxiety
In the latter state we tend to feel anxiety and great discomfort that we are not able to control, that extends throughout our body and that ultimately hinders our daily development.
Another very curious aspect is that, for anxiety, everything is important, so we find it difficult to set priorities when we feel it.
Any detail can lead to a big fracture, any aspect can affect what we do, so we want everything to be connected. Besides, if we’re perfectionists, the stage becomes much more sinister.
In any case, it will not be more important than what we say or not, but also the clothes we wear, the way we behave or the influence of someone else. Everything is decisive, all influence and everything has to be controlled?Impossible, on course. This way, feeling overwhelmed is normal.
It seems natural to avoid any stimulus or situation that causes us anxiety, in fact, when we do that, we feel a sense of relief, what is happening is that in the long run, if this strategy becomes our usual way of dealing with it we fear it, we will feel the opposite.
When we constantly avoid or run away from something, we reinforce this non-confrontation because we block the security evidence of unpleasant stimulus and fear remains, that is, we prevent it from happening and avoid verifying that there is a real danger. Thus, our irrational ideas will be perpetuated and maintained over time and anxiety will increase.
In addition, avoidance limits our lives in such a way that it can affect our mood and cause more anxiety problems.
In some cases, anxiety may be behind certain emotions, such as sadness, anger, and even pain, but it can also hide behind dilation, lack of sleep or excessive sleep, as well as the relentless need to eat or lack of appetite.
However, there is also a silent and unexpressed anxiety, people who suffer from this type of anxiety generally seem calm and peaceful, even if their interior is full of noise and fear, many of them do not even know that they are anxious.
The anxious mind is almost completely convinced that what is going to happen is dangerous and threatening, especially if it is not something known, fears uncertainty and insecurity. Although there are different approaches and therapies to treat it, there are also strategies that can be useful, such as cultivating hope.
Houston University psychologist and professor Matthew Gallaguer and his team conducted a study that showed that working in the sense of hope in therapy can be helpful as it promotes a change in the way we think, feel and perceive the reality of life. The person.
If we think about it, hope is the opposite of fear, because it involves believing that things are not so bad or that, at least, they can improve, it is a philosophical, spiritual and emotional aspect that also reinforces the mentality. resilience and growth.
Being difficult with yourself is not really a problem, because it helps us to grow as people, the problem arises when we do this too much and this behavior is negatively reflected in the dialogue we have with us.
Sometimes the question is not the “what”, but the “how” or both at the same time. The fact is, we demand ourselves destructively and end up hurting ourselves.
It’s a tyranny of self-demand: the way we talk, in what?Do I have to do it? and should I weigh, and in which an ideal of how we should be and behave solid, good, perfect, fast, and effective prevails.
An impossible goal that makes us slaves to suffering because we are never enough, that punishes us and leaves us trapped in a web, from which it is difficult to get out and whose anguish is the protagonist.
As we see, the world of anxiety is as mysterious as it is passionate, it never ceases to amaze us. Anxiety is that emotional state that we must respect and, therefore, we must know all its positive aspects and curiosities.