The soft is stronger than the hard; Is water stronger than rock, is love stronger than violence?Herman Hesse?
Why did Herman Hesse think soft is stronger or stronger than hard or stiff?If we look carefully at this phrase from the Swiss writer now, we could conclude that he was referring to resilience.
- Resilience is the ability we all have to adapt and face less favorable situations.
- A concept of psychology well known.
- But little explored by the human being in general.
Resilience is a tool that all living beings have at their disposal, albeit in different ways.
It is a key with which it is possible to face the bad times and survive. A wonderful invention of nature by which, although we are very sty to the rope of our emotions, we never break it.
However, there seem to be people for who are easier to resist or cope with difficult times. Or maybe the effort is the same, but the attitude is different.
Resilience is part of a complex mechanism influenced by many other factors, such as the attitude we take to a problem. Perhaps that’s why some people seem to deal with confrontational or unpleasant situations differently, more easily.
After several researches of modern psychology, it was concluded that these are the characteristics of resilient people:
Resilient people put in place the necessary strategies to prevent the problem from recurring. This also involves self-analysis, because sometimes the trigger for conflict does not come from the outside, but from the inside.
Resilient people are able to manage their thoughts, because all emotions come from them. We think, then we feel. Resilient people control their thoughts so they don’t get carried away by those who have a negative burden and who, in the end, have the ability to produce negative emotions.
We all go through difficult times throughout life and the important thing is to know how to stay calm when they appear, resilient people are able to be focused and calm when they find themselves in situations of chaos and momentary confusion.
There is a lot of optimism, but in the wrong way, creating a general idea that being positive means denying certain aspects of reality that are inevitable and present in the lives of many people.
Being realistic but always hoping for the best is the best way to describe resilient people’s optimism.
Resilient people know their courage and ability to overcome adversity.
What we tell ourselves is what ends up forming our reality, so if we think we can overcome an obstacle, we will surely see it.
People who are better able to deal with problems correctly know how to read other people’s emotions, understand what’s going on around them, and act accordingly.
Not all people are the same. Some are motivated by challenges and others by opportunities for change.
Resilient people know how to find new ways to achieve life satisfaction, maintain high motivation, and are able to detect and attract positive things in their lives.
One of the main characteristics of people who tend to easily collapse in the face of problems is that they get carried away by thoughts of censorship and constantly wonder why the negative situation happens precisely with them.
They focus on the “why,” unlike resilient people, who use their energy to understand how they can cope or get out of this conflicted situation.
If after reading these characteristics of resilient people, you don’t think you’re part of it, it’s important to note that resilience is present in everyone.
If you start looking at things from a different perspective, the problems will start to look less like dramas and more challenges that, depending on the circumstances, you can even take advantage of.
The key? The will to change.