Managing emotional failure or discomfort caused by situations in which we have not achieved the desired result is a daily task, in the face of a new project, whether economic, academic or personal, we always ask ourselves the same question: what if I fail?The doubt that scares us the most, because success is what matters most to us. But are we worried about having a good strategy to get up when you fall?Because it’s often the very beginning of success.
Being able to overcome failures, problems, frustration, or even stress can make the difference between succeeding or sinking into a well that’s hard to get out of, so we need to work not only to achieve our goals, but also to know how to do it. manage failure.
- Success depends on each situation and each person; in general.
- It is associated with the economic and professional sphere.
- A good salary.
- The result of a good job.
- However.
- Success is embodied in many of our lives.
- The social desyability.
- The quality of the social relationships that we establish.
- The search for the person who completes us.
We won’t always get everything we want, and knowing how to respond to these situations will help us cope better and be stronger.
Treating involves a series of thoughts, cognitive processes that orient our behavior towards solving the problem. We continually change the way we do business, depending on the resources we have or the demands generated by the environment, or by ourselves.
And what are these strategies? Maybe we’re thinking about specific processes of great elaboration. However, any kind of response we give immediately to an event (good or bad) will require some method of adaptation. So crying over the end of a relationship is already a coping technique, besides partying with your friends, going to the gym?Disconnect, or watch a marathon of your favorite movies. All of them are different from each other, but also valid to deal with this feeling of discomfort.
Initially and very generally, two types of strategies can be distinguished:
“If the plan doesn’t work, change the plan, don’t change the lens. “- Anonymous-
Not all strategies resolve the conflict in a positive way, we can respond at some point in a certain way, but subsequent emotional consequences may not help improve the situation, on the contrary, they can even make things worse. For example, if we respond with a cry (emotional regulation) to a person who has hurt us, the situation remains unchanged, but we also perpetuate this damage, aggravating the existing conflict.
Lazarus and Folkman were the forerunners of the study of how we handle failure and its repercussions; evaluated and took note of the thoughts and actions we take to address the various problems we may face throughout our lives.
In total, eight strategies cover both problem solving and emotional regulation. In turn, each consists of a series of elements reflected in different forms of behavior or thought; ways that cover the different ways people need to solve the problems they may face. This was collected in a questionnaire, the famous ways to address it.
In short, life is a constant learning experience. The path we take rarely follows the desired course and, in that sense, a sense of failure or frustration can occur, something normal, there is nothing pathological about it, however, our opportunity to grow and learn from what happened comes when we put our emotional resources moving to manage this failure. It is when the fundamental lessons we feel in our own skin that make us even wiser appear.