Adding more candles to the birthday cake is no indication that our maturity has increased, nor does it mean that we have grown emotionally or developed skills with those things that make us lose our balance.
“Seriousness is not a sign of maturity. Maturity is knowing how to laugh at life, but take it seriously when necessary?
- Most people tend to punish themselves for their mistakes before congratulating themselves on the success they have achieved.
- So they are very demanding of themselves (more than anyone else) and focus solely on chess.
- And do not beat us.
This can happen because of the society in which we are embedded or by the time in which we live, we tend to get discouraged quickly when something goes wrong.
We don’t appreciate what we’re doing right. We don’t have enough patience to move on and we don’t pay attention to the small changes.
Occasionally, it’s worth stopping all the hustle and bustle of everyday life and making a list of everything we’ve accomplished. This is not an exercise in arrogance, but a way to achieve our emotional growth.
Letting go of what hurts you: It is very important to learn to take out of our lives what hurts us, which does not help us to follow us or to tie ourselves to the past, this skill is fundamental to the success of everything we do. Recognizing toxic people is already a big step forward.
Learn from mistakes: Who said making mistakes should become a punishment for all eternity?We can learn many lessons from mistakes. It is not necessary to always seek obsessive perfectionism, it is important to make mistakes and know what not to repeat.
This completely changes our perspective and helps us undertake new projects; this time, more ambitious and with a higher chance of success.
Avoid complaints: this is certainly one of the main signs of emotional growth, people who spend all day complaining and criticizing only increase the negativity and pessimism that surrounds them. Solve problems instead of complaining, it means you’re growing.
Celebrate the achievements of others: clapping and feeling really happy when someone achieves something is synonymous with maturity, that is, that you do not envy them, that you understand that you have worked hard and that you are capable of recognizing the work of others.
Having less conflicted relationships doesn’t mean everything will be “love and peace” but that you won’t fight and fight all the time. This phase of wanting to move the world forward at all costs has passed. You have learned to put yourself in each other’s shoes, to try to come to an agreement before facing each other, you have understood that fighting is a waste of time and that it is better to seek a solution together. Besides, you realize it’s better to have peace. of the mind that of reason.
Don’t be afraid to ask for help: some time ago (when you hadn’t grown up emotionally), I felt that asking for help was a way to show weakness and therefore you shouldn’t.
However, they now understand that this is a sign of trust in each other, for example. It is not always possible to do everything alone; it’s good to be humble and recognize when you don’t know something or need help.
Know what you want: the uncertainty of the future is no longer a rule, but the exception. Be more aware of what you want to accomplish in your life and when. By having more confidence, you set the rules for your destination and can predict what to expect tomorrow.
No matter what others say: sometimes it has shaken you up, but now you are in another phase, only the opinions of those who want to help you or who want to see you, that is, the?Constructive criticism? From those around you (because you’ve also moved away from toxic people).