We live in a time when romantic relationships are undergoing great reform, at least in their concept, the fact is that the current paradigm is not working, many people are dissatisfied in love, many people do not know what to do to make a couple. The relationship works, because much of the traditional thread that organized experiences and feelings in this context is obsolete.
But where do we report this change we need to have a good romantic relationship?As with many other things, when traditional norms collapse, something new takes its place. In terms of relationships, the new emerging trend is the conscious relationship.
“Love as you would like to be loved, freely and unconditionally. -Paul Ferrini-
Are you in love or going out? Very often, the second part of the dichotomy is what happens in traditional relationships, most of us, seeing this in the couples around us, in movies or in reality shows, we learn that love is something designed for personal satisfaction and that it is necessary to work for the relationship to continue.
Generally, this work of maintaining the relationship is done with the aim of appeasing the other, so over time the sense of who we are is lost for what we had to do to maintain the relationship. a different person and, on many occasions, someone who doesn’t want to be.
On the other hand, in traditional relationships, the person is so eager to please the other that he ends up suppressing his instincts, in addition to his feelings, desires and aspirations, even his fears and apprehensions. another to do the same, that is, live to please us.
“A couple can be fragmented into their soul, even if they continue their relationship. Eckhart Tolle-
The vast majority of recent romantic relationships begin as an adventure, as a way to have fun, during the process itself the parties get to know each other and progress in their relationship, it is true that having relationships just for fun is something that seems to be fashionable, but in the end, sooner or later, most people look for something beyond It’s not enough.
What differentiates a traditional relationship from a conscious relationship is the purpose of work, in a conscious relationship both sides feel committed to an objective, this goal is growth, both individual growth and collective growth as a couple.
Many people seek to maintain a loving relationship to meet their own personal needs. This may take some time, but over time the relationship fails and, as a result, dissatisfaction will appear.
But when people come together with the intention of growing together, the relationship evolves into something bigger than personal satisfaction. Therefore, it becomes an evolutionary journey; an exciting journey in which both people have the opportunity to grow individually, away from the traditional ideal of ‘giving up to adapt’.
Despite all the problems that may arise, the good news is that in a sentimental relationship you can move from a relationship based on the traditional ideal to a conscious relationship, in fact, a conscious relationship does not arise from nothing. You must first know yourself, including having a wide variety of experiences. You can’t fall in love with someone you don’t know, you can only fall in love with the idea of love to fit in with each other.
Another thing is to live the moment and be aware of what happens, it is a different and necessary vision, not only to be able to live a rewarding sentimental relationship, but also to take advantage of every moment and grow as a person. .
Not being tied to the outcome of the relationship does not mean that what is happening does not matter, nor that there are no expectations of this relationship, it is about being more committed to the experience of growth as an engine of the relationship.
Assuming that people are here to grow physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, the loving relationship must help that growth, which must happen together. This goal of growth must be joint, shared, because otherwise the romantic relationship loses its meaning.
In any sentimental relationship emerge the wounds of the past, which are activated in one way or another, in traditional relationships it is assumed that the other must fill the voids, fill the voids and bring the happiness and love that it once was. But in conscious relationships, things don’t work that way.
The purpose of a romantic relationship is not to make us happy, but to make us aware, the other is not to give you what you lack, but to help you achieve it, the other is not to fill your voids and have yours full in return.
The conscious couple is willing to discover and face their past and present problems, because they know that they can evolve into a new reality, but for this we must take responsibility for the feelings and beliefs, without requiring the other one work that we cannot do. Ourselves.
“If you take your happiness and put it in someone else’s hands, sooner or later it will break. If you give your happiness to someone else, you can always take it away. And because happiness can only come from within you and it’s the result of love, only you’re responsible for your own happiness. ?- Miguel Ruiz-
Love is the practice of acceptance, forgiveness, being present and opening our hearts even in its most vulnerable areas, yet we often see love as a destiny. This means not being satisfied with what the relationship brings, until it reaches that point, but love is a journey and an exploration.
The conscious couple is strongly committed to being the embodiment of love and putting it into practice, so love manifests itself in your life and in your relationship in an unusual way.
“True love doesn’t come to you, it must be in you. “- Julia Robert-