The father also understands creation with affection and appreciates the daily closeness in which he gives affection, affection and lullabies. It also feeds, even if it cannot breastfeed; he also spends sleepless nights, laughs, suffers and cares about this child who is part of his being, even though he has not grown inside.
The changes associated with the preset gender roles are changing and that is a wonderful thing, today fatherhood is no longer a label to give men the sole responsibility to support a home, parents are part of creation, they are not auxiliary agents, but characters present, close and always participating in the lives of the little ones in which they leave their traces , who are fed, loveed and guided.
“It is not flesh or blood that makes them fathers and children, but the heart. -Friedrich Von Schiller-
One thing many educators and creative experts often comment on is that a child is part of a tribe, there is always talk of motherhood and an intimate bond between a woman and her baby, however, doesn’t it go unnoticed that today’s children grow up in a small microcosm inhabited by their parents, grandparents, uncles, friends of parents, teachers?
Every interaction, every habit, every gesture, and every word leaves a mark on the child’s brain, and parents have the ability to leave an extremely positive impact on their children.
One thing we all know is that just as there are good mothers and bad mothers, parents are also prone to failure, they are wrong, and there are even those who choose the role of present but absent father before being references in the education and education of a child, parents are people, and depending on their maturity and psychological and emotional balance , may ensure better or worse development of the child.
As a work done at the University of Michigan (USA) reveals. Usa), Each parent’s responsibility is to ensure their own psychological well-being in order to promote adequate emotional balance in their children. It has been observed that the effects of unemployment, stress or simply showing wandering behaviors, marked by an unequal personality, have a negative impact on a child’s cognitive development, or even on his or her social skills.
In turn, the impact of the father figure on the development of speech and the language of babies is undeniable. This means that the little ones receive many more stimuli, a different voice than the mother in a different tone, with a different type of gesture, and benefit from a wider range of stimuli. Throughout the first 3 years of life, the close, loving, fun and accessible presence of the father will also consolidate the delicate processes associated with language.
The number of single-parent families continues to increase. More and more parents are facing their children’s education alone, either because they chose it or because fate wanted it; in any case, the care, care and education of a child requires above all a physical and emotional closeness with which to give this new life security and true love. Something men and women need to be trained for.
“A good father is worth a hundred teachers. -Jean-Jacques Rousseau-
On the other hand, one thing we all know is that children don’t come into the world with an instruction manual, and if that’s the case it’s for a very simple reason: they’re not machines, kids are made of meat, they need, a heart that beats hard and a brain that aspires to everything and aspires to be able to connect with their environment , they need nutrients and a type of food that goes far beyond breast milk, something a parent knows and can also give.
Our family and the type of relationship with them largely determine who we are, beyond genes and blood, there is an intimate and private architecture where the realm of our emotions arises, our fears, our limits, but also our values, are dimensions. that a good father needs to grow properly. Let’s look at some examples.
In conclusion, one thing to remember is that the good father is not a big boy who has fun playing and making his son laugh. Is the father real? is an adult with great emotional abilities, someone safe, courageous like any mother and always eager to give safety, encouragement and affection to the child, so that tomorrow he may spread his wings and become a free and mature adult capable of giving and receiving happiness.
Images courtesy of Margarita Sikorskaia.