This article is dedicated to all people who think that a good slap in time is what children need to stop the slap. I’m talking about the slap, the famous one that people give to children to correct their behavioral problems. we can think about how sad it is.
We’ve gone from an educational model in which children couldn’t open their mouths to a mix of models that confuse parents and create chaos in children’s own references. A kind of Tower of Babel where relativism reigns: everything is questionable, everything can be bad, everything can be good, it depends, as the song said.
- So it’s not all debatable.
- In education.
- As in any field.
- There are also red lines that we must never cross.
- One is violence.
“If I don’t hit my son, if I don’t slap him once in a while to get him well,” he’ll forget who’s in charge?,?Actually, it hurts more than he does?,? I don’t like it, but sometimes it’s the only option I have left. Well, first of all, if we teach our children this violence, whatever kind, serves to achieve a goal, that’s what they’ll learn.
He thinks that our actions to educate, in the end, are the most instructive: there is nothing that teaches more than the example that people set as a reference.
They probably won’t like hitting their peers either, but they’ll use it as an option, because their parents, guardians, or educators also use it as a possibility. In fact, they use it with him, which is much loved; So why not use it with the ones we like the least?
“Sometimes I don’t have a choice. ” This phrase links violence to frustration, perhaps not in its statement, but in reality. In the slap or pinch you find the frustration of not being able to act otherwise, and often hides the wrath of doing something you hate. An emotion, which involves more energy to discharge and therefore ends up generating a stronger slap.
Sad because they can cause pain, sad because they can cause fear, sad because they can cause sad tears because they can cause all three things at the same time, without learning anything This punishment, like all punishments, focuses attention on something negative, which would not be necessary to do. A pinch doesn’t talk about alternative behaviors. You can tell your child not to hit his classmates, but if he feels he needs to react to something, in the face of a refusal, that’s what he’ll do.
In this way, the child can go from hitting to threatening, discriminating, isolating, insulting, so they will yell at you, pinch or slap you for all these behaviors together, and you still won’t know how to react to the negatives.
Another popular comment is “I got hit when I was a kid and I grew up really well. “Fortunately, sometimes we do well “despite”, not “thank you”. Someone has probably taught you what to focus on to get it right and not use violence as a bargaining weapon.
I think that’s the question, not another. Fortunately, it’s very strange that someone is traumatized by a slap or pinch, but what I mean is that you can educate them without using them, you can educate better without that. And yes, it requires more effort, more patience, more reflection and more timeshare with the children. Quality time, not what’s left after going to work, cleaning the house, ironing clothes, making food and arranging shopping.
You have to be careful what kids do. We can’t just see them as flies that won’t allow us to watch TV or rest for a while after a grueling day.
If we do, the lids and pinches will disappear, because they simply won’t be lost. You don’t need a drastic measure to repair a tree that was very crooked, you can fix it fondly.
It doesn’t hurt anyone. And you think, is there anything prettier?