Or do you often feel anger, resentment, jealousy, and other negative feelings toward people who don’t do what you want?
These negative attitudes reflect manipulative dynamics that contribute to stress, conflict, and can ultimately hurt the feelings of others.
- It is true that we are all unique.
- Both in our vision of life and in our attitudes.
- Feelings and experiences.
- There has never been an exact copy of us and there will never be.
- You are unique.
- There is no one like you in the world.
- Are you aware of that?.
It is precisely the differences and personal characteristics that make life interesting, a challenge. How to treat others who see life differently is what enriches relationships. The sad thing is that these differences can often lead (if misunderstood) to unresolved conflicts, stress and disappointment. .
It is essential to accept the uniqueness of people, but it is not as easy as it seems, in relationships, for example, we get an idea of what our half of orange should look like and how it should act according to our standards and we expect them to do so. Of course, this will never happen and problems will arise as long as we have strict expectations.
We can’t blame others because they’re not how we’d like them to be. The reason for being a relationship or friendship is shared happiness, the realization of mutual enrichment and not changing anyone.
We need to clarify something: is the behavior of the person that we do not like is bad or would we just do things differently? By not making that difference, we end up seeing many attitudes that we do not like from our partner or friends.
We must not demand that others act, think and work like us, because this attitude will certainly bring us problems. When we look at what others are doing, we miss the opportunity to enjoy the present with them, without making parallel judgments.
It’s no longer about accepting others as they are, it’s about behaviors you don’t accept, based on your own codes of conduct, in those cases the important thing is to think about it and talk to the person about your actions. The way you talk is important when you ask someone to change, because sometimes you can lose everything and achieve the exact opposite.
No one changes like that, just because they guess what you want; It doesn’t work that way. And if you think it’s going to happen, you’ll be increasingly irritated, until one day you “explode. “
It is more productive and effective to address the problem with the person who bothers you, to explain what irritates you and how you feel, in this way the other person will not insult or be offended, so it is easier for them to change their mind. It is also obvious that we must be open to the opinions of others when they suggest that we change something, so that in the end we are looking for a better and lighter way of living.
Who do we want to change? If the list is too long, maybe it’s time to think about it. This probably means that we have a lot of work to do on ourselves before we find true happiness.