On many occasions we believe that we accept a situation, when we actually resign ourselves to it What is the difference?
They are two very different attitudes, because resignation will make us suffer, because we continue to expect the situation to be different, not as it is today and sometimes we try to change it. However, when we accept, we assume reality, without pretending to change it, without suffering it, and this allows us to continue dreaming in life, looking for better options in another way.
- We believe that we accept a situation in which we are able to ‘survive’ when we forget it.
- Yet are we resigned to it?When we do not go in the direction we want in our lives.
- But when we are trapped in the situation so that we resign ourselves.
- We sympathize.
- We feel victimized by the situation.
- And we do nothing to remedy it.
- Because on several occasions I say “that is and nothing can be done”.
In this way I become a slave to the situation, I stick to it, I block myself in my life, because I think that’s what I have to live and I’m no longer looking for options, I’m resigned.
On the contrary, when I accept a situation, even if I do not like it, it means that I continue to look for another path to my happiness, I have discovered that this is not my way, which does not make me happy, however, on this occasion or situation, it happened like this.
This is not why I’m stuck, not because of this, I think it will always be, but I’m learning from this experience and moving on. Acceptance is not against the current, but it takes advantage of situations to learn about life. There is always the possibility of correcting the meaning of my life.
Acceptance also implies respect, because when I accept a person as it is, the desire to change it disappears; I respect her deeply and then decide whether the relationship with that person suits me or not, whether I feel respected by her too.
For example, when I resign myself to the death of a loved one, I suffer for it, I am disgusted by the world, I do not admit it, I want to change this situation, and it is a normal stage of mourning, but it can become a lasting and present process in the life of that person who will never really accept it.
Accepting death means overcoming pain. To accept death is to stop suffering, not feel rebellion and take a new course to life, which continues and has much more to offer, in this case acceptance is the last step of a healthy duel.
Accepting or giving up becomes two sides of the same coin, why do you have to turn the page and forget?, what has happened, you have to continue living.
If in my life there is acceptance of everything that happens to me, I will own, overcoming obstacles and finding happiness on the path of learning, if I resign themselves to the contrary, pain and suffering will always accompany me.